Wow, well first of all, I want to say sorry you're going through something so emotionally difficult, I've always thought it such a brave thing to go and live in a country that doesn't speak your language! So really well done with that!

It does sound like there's possibly more bad than good? But of course being in a relationship myself, I know the feeling of wanting to do everything you can to make it work before even considering an end to it.

What has helped me in the past, is to become more self-aware, (this might sound harsh but please bare with me, this is not an accusation) and to recognize any toxicity in myself. Sometimes I would think that just because he was the one yelling and getting angry that I was the victim, until I found an article that showed me exactly what I was doing, unintentionally of course! We'd never intentionally hurt our loved ones but I would find any reason to push buttons and then when he'd get angry, I'd pull back and act as the wounded one.

I've also found that though a relationship takes two, it actually CAN take ONE to make the positive change to it, (in this case, you!) so once I became aware of my toxicity and was able to watch myself, be more in control of what I said, how I said it, think about whether or not certain things would just cause unnecessary upset, I was able to calm my head and heart and he felt that energy and mirrored it, which of course now creates harmony, it helped me word things properly so I was able to communicate my feelings without making him feel attacked.

All relationships need arguments and disagreements here and there but not all the time and not to the point of resentment. Always remember, "The opposite of love IS NOT hate but indifference". Indifference starts with resentment which is caused when things aren't resolved.

One thing that I find helps, along with this self-awareness, is to truly remember and understand that other people aren't the keys to our happiness. Your partner is going to live his life regardless and it sounds like he wants you to be part of it but you must truly think about yourself and what you want out of life and go for it and maybe that will include him. If that means spending most of your day studying his language so you can start feeling more comfortable going out, then that's one of the first steps.

Threatening to break up with you, making hurtful jokes with his colleagues and then even telling you (Like you're not supposed to get upset?) really is not fair and a nasty thing to do. Also the exs thing, that's horrible, I totally know what that's like with past relationships and it's enough to bring you down but if you do want to try for you and him, you've got to work on your own life or he'll just keep disrespecting you.

We as humans need routine and without a job or hobby, things like depression and anxiety take over and then you're in a viscous cycle and that's where the self-awareness is helpful because it's easy to fall into self-pity and blame the boyfriend that you've made such drastic changes for but you're not a victim, you're not weak, you moved countries for love! That's awesome! Use the internet to help you with the language, take time to do things you enjoy, read (Terry Pratchett's bound to get a giggle out of you), exercise, keep where you live clean and tidy, look in the mirror and tell yourself you're beautiful. Who knows, maybe you'll find he's not the one and if it doesn't work out after you've done all that then you know for sure that it's not you, it's him.

Sorry if this is longer than necessary, I got a bit passionate there. Really hope something in that crazy amount of typing helped, really sorry if not though!

All the luck to you! Maybe we'll get an update, hopefully a positive one!

Heyya, the topic of love and relationships is a hard, arduous, and even a torturous one. However, I do believe in true love and how some things that you least expect it to happen will become true. So do hold on to some Hope.

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You need to respark the relationship. If you have been doing the same old things in the past, things will not change. To have a better future, have a change in your mindset, outlook, appearance and even lifestyle. Be the person you are proud of amidst all these changes. I am sure there is love among you and that sometimes it can be clouded by the boringness in a long-term relationship. So take the first needed step to change!

Here is what you gonna do in summary!

#1: Play Hard to Get

#2: Rock His World

#3: Laugh at His Jokes

#4: Find Strength in Numbers

#5: Appeal to His Sensual Side

Hope it is helpful! Do let me know what I can do to assist in your understanding!