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January 14, 2019, 03:41:27 PM
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shellshock283


So there is this guy who I see every day on the train home from work. He is very quiet, never really talks to anyone. I approached him one day and started some small talk, he was smiling and polite and seemed a little nervous. But for the most part he is not really talkative but always goes out of his way to say hello.
 I have caught him staring at me so many times. He used to look away as soon as I caught him, but recently he is not even turning away anymore. Just staring with eye contact.

I found out we were in the same group on Facebook and said hello there. Didn’t push anything just a hello. He didn’t seem like he wanted to chat there. He conversed but it really seemed like he wasn’t into it, But never the less, he keeps saying hello in person and staring at me.

I am not sure how to read this. Is he brushing me off? Or is he just really shy and introverted?  Anybody have experience with something like this?  Any advice is greatly appreciated!

January 14, 2019, 05:19:09 PM
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So there is this guy who I see every day on the train home from work. He is very quiet, never really talks to anyone. I approached him one day and started some small talk, he was smiling and polite and seemed a little nervous. But for the most part he is not really talkative but always goes out of his way to say hello.
 I have caught him staring at me so many times. He used to look away as soon as I caught him, but recently he is not even turning away anymore. Just staring with eye contact.

I found out we were in the same group on Facebook and said hello there. Didn’t push anything just a hello. He didn’t seem like he wanted to chat there. He conversed but it really seemed like he wasn’t into it, But never the less, he keeps saying hello in person and staring at me.

I am not sure how to read this. Is he brushing me off? Or is he just really shy and introverted?  Anybody have experience with something like this?  Any advice is greatly appreciated!

Hey @shellshock283.

Hmm, this is a strange one, because i'm not really the one to start small talk on the train either, as im always knackered coming home from work and the last thing i want to do is to start conversations with strangers. it just requires effort and some people can't be bothered with it! (me including).

As he's smiling at you that could indicate that he's willing to engage in some sort of discussion, though is waiting for you to make the first move (as he's not sure if you're sure that you want to speak to him). OR he's just flirting.

the reason he doesn't want to engage in a discussion with you on Facebook could be one of two things. 1) he just doesn't want to speak to you and isn't actually that bothered, or 2) doesn't want his messages being stored on his account (for his partner to see, friends, family etc) and would rather speak in person as there isn't any trace!

I'm no expert though! let us know what happens. :)

January 14, 2019, 06:39:48 PM
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Thank you so much! Yes it is very confusing. I thought he was just not interested and I respected that and stepped back, then commence the staring and making sure he says hi to me every day. Talk about mixed signals.  ;D

January 14, 2019, 07:22:01 PM
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Thank you so much! Yes it is very confusing. I thought he was just not interested and I respected that and stepped back, then commence the staring and making sure he says hi to me every day. Talk about mixed signals.  ;D

Just see how it goes! :)

Are you currently in a relationship and looking to mingle?

January 14, 2019, 08:43:00 PM
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Yes I am recently divorced. I am taking my sweet time before jumping into anything else however. I am one of those people who has a bad habit of settling, and in the long run get used/taken advantage of. Trying to change that.  I do however admit, this confusing guy is intriguing.  ::) ;D

January 14, 2019, 10:18:34 PM
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Yes I am recently divorced. I am taking my sweet time before jumping into anything else however. I am one of those people who has a bad habit of settling, and in the long run get used/taken advantage of. Trying to change that.  I do however admit, this confusing guy is intriguing.  ::) ;D

aw x

i hope it works out for you, keep smiling and see what happens! keep us posted

January 15, 2019, 04:16:34 PM
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Hello there, he seems like an introverted guy, I am usually a little bit more careful with these type of people, I would advise you to take it slow, get to know him better, his behavior, mostly the way he interacts with others, at the end of the day you don’t know this guy at all. So please play it safe and study carefully! Good luck!! ;) Blessings.

January 16, 2019, 03:54:47 PM
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Yes i agree that is the best way to go. After all you know what they always say about serial killers. ( He was so quiet). So yes i will not rush into anything with this one. Thank you so much! :) :)

 

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