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Author Topic: I'm not sure if this normal or I've been harassed!!

April 24, 2019, 11:24:53 PM
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Seasonalflower


I'm in my late twenties but I've never been in any type of a relationship never even fooled around, kissed someone or went on a date or anything because I was brought up very religiously

but three months ago I met an older man he is exactly 40 years old and I admired him so much
I didn't have any romantic feelings towards him I just enjoyed his company
he is very rich and I'm not
he didn't offer me money and I don't want his money but he showed me a side of life I never had access to before
we went on two dates and on the first one we shared a romantic moment and I saw him more handsome than he is
but he talked of other female friends and I thought I'm probably just one of them, a friend

on the second date, he told me we would go to the beach
although I'm aware its a date it never crossed my mind not even for a second that something would happen I just didn't think he would look at me that way
but at night the beach became empty it was only he and I and barely few lights in the distance. so he started feeling me up
he kissed my neck and I pushed him away asked him to take me back home told him I was in shock and I didn't think of him that way and didn't go out with him for that purpose
he apologized and promised he wouldn't do anything I don't want
kept apologizing for half an hour

after that I calmed down and we sat and chatted slowly it became intimate he messaged me and I didn't mind his touch, kissed me and I didn't care much. until I felt that something more could happen and I asked him to let go of me
but he didn't. and he was much much stronger than me. I never thought he could be this strong that it seemed impossible for me to get away.
for a second I lay there he was kissing my ear or something but I was staring at the sky, so far away, scared that he would hurt me
 
eventually, he did let go of me but he still touched me several times after that. felt my whole body up even reached his hand up my dress but I pushed it away
I feel like I wasn't aggressive enough that I wasn't clear cause there were few moments where I didn't mind his touch.
but for the most part, I wanted to go back home and he was my only ride
and I was stupidly shy too shy to say please do not touch me again

I don't know how to react I have no one to talk to
what I did is considered illegal where I live
and it an act my parents would die of shame if they ever knew about

but that doesn't concern me as much as the fact that I'm not sure if I was ok with this or not

and I'm not sure what to do with him now? how should I react?!


April 25, 2019, 04:38:40 PM
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SomethingMissing004


That's called assault. And though you stuck around with him after the first incident, if you made it clear that his advances were not warranted or wanted and you said NO, he never should've touched you AT ALL again. He took advantage of you and assaulted you. I'd be PISSED and personally might even consider pressing charges.

April 26, 2019, 05:59:15 PM
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Seasonalflower


thank you for your reply
he had since sent me pictures of himself that show his upper body
I think I'm too stupid to understand how humans work honestly cause I told one of my friends what happened and she said I should have suspected something like this would happen that it was obvious

anyhow thank you for replying

May 03, 2019, 10:25:26 AM
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W_Amadeus_M


Hey!

Brake any contact! He assaulted You.

If You want to know how people work, then look at a basic level.
What are men programmed to do? Put their DNA as far in history as possible and in as young females as possible (better chance of getting good offspring). This doesn't mean all men are pigs and blah, blah, blah. But this guy is.

Tell him, he should never contact You again, if he does, You will press the charges. To block his number right after that, it's too late for apologies.
Consider pressing charges anyway, because he might do the same with others, but this part is up to You. Think only about Yourself, You are too young.


Best regards,
W.A.M.

May 03, 2019, 09:07:11 PM
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NotaBella


You definitely need to report this issue to HR in its fullest extent. Include the photos and all possible details. This is not acceptable for anyone. Do not be ashamed because he is 100% in the wrong. Your parents and family love you, they will support you. I hope everything works out.

 

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