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Author Topic: How to deal with just being friends

February 23, 2020, 09:58:41 AM
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Sammy


Well, I posted a topic the other day but the situation has changed drastically so I thought I'd open a new topic and ask an admin to delete the other one.

I spoke to my friend who was flirting and it turns out he does like me a lot and feels attracted but he does not want to be in a relationship. For one he just gotten out of a horrible relationship but also because in a way he likes being alone, not having to think about other people and stuff.

I get that but how do I deal with that. I have know him for over a decade and he is my friend. I don't want to lose him as a friend but I just can't deal with this. How do you deal with just being friends eventhough you know you like someone and the other person likes you too.

February 23, 2020, 11:50:48 AM
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AmyShell


It's just time I think. After any break-up a person needs a while to get over it and start dating again, this time is different for everyone. The guy himself doesn't really seem to enjoy being in relationships, perhaps it is better for you two to stay friends until his situation changes? Just because two people like each other doesn't mean they should be in a relationship. You have to talk about it a lot and understand what you and the other person want in a relationship before starting one. Good luck with everything though =)

February 23, 2020, 12:13:50 PM
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Sammy


Thank you Amy. I do appreciate you taking the time to advice me. Yes, and in this case, he was in a very bad relationship with a lot of emotional abuse. So I totally get that. It is just the being friends part is so difficult. You see I have always liked him. From the moment he introduced himself as a new colleague. So like after we've seen each other I can't stop thinking about him for days while he can very easily not send a message for days or longer. I am sure he prefers his alone time more so it is easier for him to not think about me. But I really can't deal with that. And him telling me he likes me too, made that even worse. He did tell me he was already making plans to hang out and do things when the weather gets better but I don't know. I just hate this feeling of missing him.

March 07, 2020, 12:31:52 AM
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samsome369


hi gal, I was in your shoes before. and here's an article that really helped me when I was struggling at the bottom.
I hope it could give you some enlightenment and inspiration like it helped me  :)

http://back.ly/Ay4dc

wish you have a great future with your loved one.

 

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