Lets Chat Love
Register An AccountLogin

Author Topic: Help me

March 13, 2019, 12:17:37 AM
Read 615 times


i was into an affair with this married man for 6 years. He has a son of 14 and married for 15 years and told me he separated from his wife for the last 8 years which is true. But he kept in touch with her for the son.  I had issues with my own marriage so we both started an affair tht lasted for 6 years. I came to know that he was still tryin to make up with hi wife so I asked him to come clean so that we can stop affair and be friends but he always said he hated her. I caught him red handed and leaked all info about affair to hsi wife. TO my shock, the wife was mad at him( though they never met in the past few years) and he kept lowprofile for a month and came back to me. He didnt know I leaked the emails.

Then I started to notice some changes in his behaviour again after 6 months. He started getting close to a girl of 23. he said she is an artist and he is just friends with this girl. Again I requested him to tell me the truth if he has any feelings for her because I wanted friendship with him forever and thats more important. But he kept telling me that he has nothing with her as she is a kid. I trusted him again but still had some doubts somewhere. Suddenly one day I caught himw tih her in his room kissing. I confronted him and he asked me to leave. I didnot and told the girl everything about the affair.showed her all the emails and pictures. She left from his place after slapping him. Later she called me and we both spoke for hours together and to our shock we found that he was spending the first half of the day with me and the second with her. He took me to movesi, spas, lunches, played chess with me till evening. Later he spent nights having sex with her, took her for shopping and all other places we visited. He even spoke exactly the same dialogues to both of us women.

But he never had sex with me the moment he met her. Thats only solace.

She told me that she even aborted his child . She showed me their whats app chat and she indeed was preganant.
Later both of us came to know from a common friend that this guy actually trapped this girl after she came to him for treatment. He planned to trap her for sex and with his cute talk and charm he managed to do that. This common friend introduced the girl to this man.

After the truth came out, The girl put his name on facebook and warned told entire story to the world. Tagged him. She went to his home and told his sister about him. She showed my mails to his sister. Apparently this man told her that after separation from wife, he never touched another woman while he was having sex with me day and night. Also he lied to her ( just lke how he lied to me) that I was only his friend and past ex GF who was obsessed with him. This pissed her off and she realised that she has been actually trapped with a plan.

I was happy that she came to kow the truth, I was shocked because I didnot want my mails on facebook. I simply wanted her to show that he was with me while he was sleeping with her. But unfortunately, she is now planning to take him to court filing  a case of molestation.
He had 6 months of affair with her. During that period, I begged him to tell me if he had any relationship so that I get closure and I can move on so friendship at least can be saved. But he kept lying that he didnot.
Now he blocked me everywhere and stopped talking to me.
I requested her to move on in life or patch up with him but she wants to take him to the court.
Im so worried.

I dont understand why the girl wants to file a complaint against him when their relationship was consensual. I was anyway his EX who went to only movies and shopping with him. She was the one whom he was having sex with. Luckily he never touched me in these 6 months( but was planning to go out on vacation with me ) so may be I still have some respect for him. But he confused me to no end buy planning for vacations, by talking to me whole day n night, feeling jealous when I spoke to ohter men. So I thought he was simply taking a break from me. I was so confused. Am I reason for their breakup? I was mad because he lied to me for 6 months and badmouthed me before her when he could clearly told me that he was in a relationship . It could have saved our friendship
Now how can I request him to be friends with me again? I dont care wiht whom he sleeps but he has been a good friend to me and I want his friendship.

March 13, 2019, 07:03:19 PM
Reply #1


Honestly speaking, I don’t think it’s wise to approach him and ask for friendship. Maybe with time but right now he is getting harassed by the other girl who’s about to take him to court and you’re also in a fragile state after what he did. I think it would be wise that you took some time to find yourself and to be happy with yourself. You need to be mentally ready to introduce him into your life because he will easily manipulate you if he knows you’re still after him. Honestly speaking I think what the other girl is doing is exteme but at least she is standing up for herself. I highly recommend that you let him go and focus on you and what makes you happy in life. He can’t be the only thing. He is not an honest or loyal man and people don’t change easily. Don’t let him continue to rule your life this way. A real friend wouldn’t stab you in the back and speak ill of you just for his own selfish reasons.