Author Topic: he is mad at me....but he really miss me

Frambuesa123 · October 23, 2018, 03:41:04 PM

So i lost the trust of my couple when i was drunk at his place and begin to cry and have a meltdown….he almost get evicted….i really dont remember that detail when i was like that and i promise him never do that again…never drink ….he still have dates with me but not in his place anymore….he want me to gain his trust again…im going to find a psychologist because i know this thing of me crying when im drunk is something very deep….but he also ask me to do this in forums….i was very sincere about what is really hapoening in my mind…and he still wants to see me…but he is taking his time…i just dont like that he always talk about that incident and get very stubborn and a little not so kind…..and i feel a little sad also…then i just tell him : ok i understand you are depresse because of me…i want you happy you can find other person..i will deal with the feeling of losing you for a time..its ok i just want your happiness…but he still write and wants to see me…what i should do? I really likes him…we have only 5 months of realtionship….jaja but we are really happy to find us..

missg · October 23, 2018, 06:35:30 PM

Quote from: Frambuesa123 on October 23, 2018, 03:41:04 PM

So i lost the trust of my couple when i was drunk at his place and begin to cry and have a meltdown….he almost get evicted….i really dont remember that detail when i was like that and i promise him never do that again…never drink ….he still have dates with me but not in his place anymore….he want me to gain his trust again…im going to find a psychologist because i know this thing of me crying when im drunk is something very deep….but he also ask me to do this in forums….i was very sincere about what is really hapoening in my mind…and he still wants to see me…but he is taking his time…i just dont like that he always talk about that incident and get very stubborn and a little not so kind…..and i feel a little sad also…then i just tell him : ok i understand you are depresse because of me…i want you happy you can find other person..i will deal with the feeling of losing you for a time..its ok i just want your happiness…but he still write and wants to see me…what i should do? I really likes him…we have only 5 months of realtionship….jaja but we are really happy to find us..

do you know why you get really upset when you're drunk? (or drinking alcohol).

he doesn't sound like a very good boyfriend if you're crying and he's not trying to make you feel better!

i think you need to try and diagnose/think about why you do get upset when you're drunk, if everything is truly fine and you just can't handle alcohol that well then i don't think you need to see a psychologist, unless there is something seriously bothering you babe x

tbh, eh doesn't sound like the best of boyfriends!

how is the relationship in general?

Andja98 · December 21, 2018, 02:20:12 PM

He shouldn't let you go through all of that alone. I get emotional when I drink too and it can be really stressfull sometimes. As you mentioned, it is really a deeper problem because alcohol can fire up your emotions. If you're putting up a "happy face" but you're sad or going through something, you're most likely going to fall apart when alcohol kicks in. He should be talking to you more about your mental state and figure out why you get emotional when drinking. It's not something you want to happen, you just can't control it, and I totally get it. It's a problem, and if he really loves you, he's going to help you get through it. <3

Tehilah27 · December 21, 2018, 02:45:49 PM

If he really misses you and wants to be with you then he should learn that every one of us comes with baggage. If you had a meltdown once, when you were drunk, and you promised not to let it happen again and apologised for almost getting him evicted then he should let it go because everyone makes mistakes. He shouldn't hold it over your head anymore but should sit you down and find out what causes you to break down whenever you are drunk so he can help you deal with it.

alymae · December 23, 2018, 11:45:18 AM

Alcohol lowers our inhibitions. We should really control our alcohol intake. I also think that crying when drunk is pretty normal. I do this too. This is the time when I can release my pent-up emotions. If your boyfriend truly loves you, then, he will accept you for who you are with all the baggage. He will not let you go through this thing alone. As for you, you should control your drinking as a respect to your boyfriend. Show him that you care about him and his opinions.

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