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December 16, 2018, 07:53:05 AM
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babyshelle


How would you feel if your boyfriend/husband forgot your anniversary? :(

My boyfriend is not into giving flowers, chocolates, presents and making surprises. I do not know if there is wrong with me or something that does not inspire him to make an effort to buy me a present on my birthday. Am I being materialistic or needy to expect it from him?

I do not want to ask him for a gift but as a girlfriend, on my birthday, I expect him to. Even just a single flower would make me smile.
I am waiting for him to make an effort because it will be meaningless if I ask him to. :(

I do not want us to fight over material things that is why I am keeping this to myself.
He does not have any plans on our anniversary too. It is quite disappointing.

What would I do? It is making me upset. Maybe special dates does not so special for him. That makes me sad.

December 16, 2018, 11:49:33 AM
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missg


How would you feel if your boyfriend/husband forgot your anniversary? :(

My boyfriend is not into giving flowers, chocolates, presents and making surprises. I do not know if there is wrong with me or something that does not inspire him to make an effort to buy me a present on my birthday. Am I being materialistic or needy to expect it from him?

I do not want to ask him for a gift but as a girlfriend, on my birthday, I expect him to. Even just a single flower would make me smile.
I am waiting for him to make an effort because it will be meaningless if I ask him to. :(

I do not want us to fight over material things that is why I am keeping this to myself.
He does not have any plans on our anniversary too. It is quite disappointing.

What would I do? It is making me upset. Maybe special dates does not so special for him. That makes me sad.

To be honest, I don't think any of my previous boyfriends have remembered our anniversary date, however, they have made an effort (once I tell them that our anniversary is in 2 weeks time, etc).

I would try and remind him that your anniversary is coming up and you'd really like it if you went out for dinner to celebrate the occasion, and hopefully, he'll follow on from that request and putting the effort into booking a restaurant and paying.

When is your anniversary @babyshelle?

It's not the first time I've heard that a guy has forgot their anniversary, trust me!  :D Maybe he will surprise you, just let him know what you'd like and see if it happens.

December 16, 2018, 12:07:51 PM
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menchuuy58


How would you feel if your boyfriend/husband forgot your anniversary? :(

My boyfriend is not into giving flowers, chocolates, presents and making surprises. I do not know if there is wrong with me or something that does not inspire him to make an effort to buy me a present on my birthday. Am I being materialistic or needy to expect it from him?

I do not want to ask him for a gift but as a girlfriend, on my birthday, I expect him to. Even just a single flower would make me smile.
I am waiting for him to make an effort because it will be meaningless if I ask him to. :(

I do not want us to fight over material things that is why I am keeping this to myself.
He does not have any plans on our anniversary too. It is quite disappointing.

What would I do? It is making me upset. Maybe special dates does not so special for him. That makes me sad.
There is nothing you can do. He should remember all those if he really loves you. Love is unselfish. Love is caring and sharing.

December 18, 2018, 04:54:25 PM
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Tehilah27


Sorry to say but most guys don't remember things like dates and anniversaries, you have to remind them. What my sister does is tell us to call her at a particular time when her husband would be present and ask her what they'll be doing for their anniversary. We do that and she speaks loud enough for him to hear her say she doesn't know what they have planned for their anniversary. This way, he is reminded indirectly and now knows she's expecting him to make it special. Find a way to remind him without coming out right to say it.

December 19, 2018, 04:47:43 AM
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babyshelle


How would you feel if your boyfriend/husband forgot your anniversary? :(

My boyfriend is not into giving flowers, chocolates, presents and making surprises. I do not know if there is wrong with me or something that does not inspire him to make an effort to buy me a present on my birthday. Am I being materialistic or needy to expect it from him?

I do not want to ask him for a gift but as a girlfriend, on my birthday, I expect him to. Even just a single flower would make me smile.
I am waiting for him to make an effort because it will be meaningless if I ask him to. :(

I do not want us to fight over material things that is why I am keeping this to myself.
He does not have any plans on our anniversary too. It is quite disappointing.

What would I do? It is making me upset. Maybe special dates does not so special for him. That makes me sad.

To be honest, I don't think any of my previous boyfriends have remembered our anniversary date, however, they have made an effort (once I tell them that our anniversary is in 2 weeks time, etc).

I would try and remind him that your anniversary is coming up and you'd really like it if you went out for dinner to celebrate the occasion, and hopefully, he'll follow on from that request and putting the effort into booking a restaurant and paying.

When is your anniversary @babyshelle?

It's not the first time I've heard that a guy has forgot their anniversary, trust me!  :D Maybe he will surprise you, just let him know what you'd like and see if it happens.

@missg  I always ask him about his plans on our anniversary. He had nothing to say, he always let me decide. So, he brought me to an amusement park, which is my idea. It went well. We are happy and had so much fun. We eat dinner together. I guess, I will get used to it. I love him so much. We'll just work things out.
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December 19, 2018, 04:54:46 AM
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babyshelle


How would you feel if your boyfriend/husband forgot your anniversary? :(

My boyfriend is not into giving flowers, chocolates, presents and making surprises. I do not know if there is wrong with me or something that does not inspire him to make an effort to buy me a present on my birthday. Am I being materialistic or needy to expect it from him?

I do not want to ask him for a gift but as a girlfriend, on my birthday, I expect him to. Even just a single flower would make me smile.
I am waiting for him to make an effort because it will be meaningless if I ask him to. :(

I do not want us to fight over material things that is why I am keeping this to myself.
He does not have any plans on our anniversary too. It is quite disappointing.

What would I do? It is making me upset. Maybe special dates does not so special for him. That makes me sad.
There is nothing you can do. He should remember all those if he really loves you. Love is unselfish. Love is caring and sharing.


@menchuuy58 I think so. There is nothing I can do about his behavior. I'll just keep on communicating with him. I am always telling him how I feel towards him. Also what I am feeling about his actions and words. I do not want to let him go just because he is not into celebrating occasions. Besides, he is always been there when I need him to. Maybe I'll just appreciate what he can give and help him into his imperfections.

December 19, 2018, 05:00:57 AM
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babyshelle


Sorry to say but most guys don't remember things like dates and anniversaries, you have to remind them. What my sister does is tell us to call her at a particular time when her husband would be present and ask her what they'll be doing for their anniversary. We do that and she speaks loud enough for him to hear her say she doesn't know what they have planned for their anniversary. This way, he is reminded indirectly and now knows she's expecting him to make it special. Find a way to remind him without coming out right to say it.


@Tehilah27
I always keep on reminding him. I also asked him about his plans but he'll just ask me back. :(
He said we will do whatever I like to do on that day.

I guess he never understands what we girls want them to do.

It is quite disappointing but I have nothing to do with that. I just don't want to spoil the day so I'll just enjoy his company.
I am still grateful to have him. I love him so much.


December 19, 2018, 08:24:24 PM
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Purpletaco


I think it's important to have a discussion about these things in some depth.

Ask yourself why it is important that he do something for you on your anniversary, and then explain it to him.

The way you are describing your situation, it sounds to me like you are not being materialistic at all, and just want to feel like you are important to him, to celebrate your couple and to feel special - which you are very much entitled to in my opinion!

My boyfriend is the same way - he is incredibly forgetful in life, but he knows that our anniversary is very important to me. Meanwhile, I try to find a way to make it pleasant for him - for instance, I will tell him that one year I am in charge of planning, the next year it's his turn, or perhaps I will drop hints a couple of weeks in advance like: ''I can't wait for you to open your present!'' (Which ALWAYS makes him go: Oh, I can't wait for you to open yours!) and he runs to find a gift.

December 23, 2018, 01:48:52 PM
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ghednepo


For my opinion your boyfriend does not love you anymore because. as a man i will not forget the anniversary of my girlfriend. And if you're boyfriend forgot your anniversary i think he is not love you anymore maybe he is tired of your relationship. Maybe you should talk him and ask him about his feeling for you that is the best thing to do

December 23, 2018, 03:55:49 PM
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Caguioa747


For me, as a guy, I think your boyfriend is just busy or didn't intentionally forget your anniversary. a lot of factors may come up on why your boyfriend forgot your anniversary.

December 24, 2018, 12:40:28 PM
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faithuy56


How would you feel if your boyfriend/husband forgot your anniversary? :(

My boyfriend is not into giving flowers, chocolates, presents and making surprises. I do not know if there is wrong with me or something that does not inspire him to make an effort to buy me a present on my birthday. Am I being materialistic or needy to expect it from him?

I do not want to ask him for a gift but as a girlfriend, on my birthday, I expect him to. Even just a single flower would make me smile.
I am waiting for him to make an effort because it will be meaningless if I ask him to. :(

I do not want us to fight over material things that is why I am keeping this to myself.
He does not have any plans on our anniversary too. It is quite disappointing.

What would I do? It is making me upset. Maybe special dates does not so special for him. That makes me sad.
Thanks for sharing your problem with us. If I were you I would talk to him about this. You tell him that you are sad because he forgot your anniversary. Love is not a one way street. He should remember your anniversary.

December 24, 2018, 01:04:21 PM
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menchuuy58


How would you feel if your boyfriend/husband forgot your anniversary? :(

My boyfriend is not into giving flowers, chocolates, presents and making surprises. I do not know if there is wrong with me or something that does not inspire him to make an effort to buy me a present on my birthday. Am I being materialistic or needy to expect it from him?

I do not want to ask him for a gift but as a girlfriend, on my birthday, I expect him to. Even just a single flower would make me smile.
I am waiting for him to make an effort because it will be meaningless if I ask him to. :(

I do not want us to fight over material things that is why I am keeping this to myself.
He does not have any plans on our anniversary too. It is quite disappointing.

What would I do? It is making me upset. Maybe special dates does not so special for him. That makes me sad.
There is nothing you can do. He should remember all those if he really loves you. Love is unselfish. Love is caring and sharing.


@menchuuy58 I think so. There is nothing I can do about his behavior. I'll just keep on communicating with him. I am always telling him how I feel towards him. Also what I am feeling about his actions and words. I do not want to let him go just because he is not into celebrating occasions. Besides, he is always been there when I need him to. Maybe I'll just appreciate what he can give and help him into his imperfections.
Thanks babyshelle for your reply to my comment. You are right to help him into his imperfections. It is good to know that he is always there for you. You really love him because you don't want to let him go. I hope he too should not let you go.

 

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