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Author Topic: Gaming boyfriend. Need advice.

March 30, 2020, 08:14:07 AM
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sparker


Before I start. Please tell me If im being to overbearing or crazy because at this point I dont know right from wrong. Im having issues with my boyfriend. Im 23 and He is 26. His life is dictated by gaming. I feel like there is never a moment in the day where he isnt on his phone, laptop, xbox playing a game from the moment he wakes to when he goes to sleep. If he has a spare moment thats what he is doing. Its to the point now where if I ask him to do something I feel like im intruding and dont even get me started on how much worse it gets when hes also gaming and playing with his mates. I feel like it gets even more immature and I become resentful. Ive tried talking to him about it but it always ends up being me being the overbearing one. He complains about our sex life but I guess im not feeling much intimacy to want it to lead to sex I guess. I dont mind him gaming but I dont think its healthy to be doing it 24/7. I need some tools on what to do while hes gaming because Im sick of arguing and bringing it up but I also dont want to be petty either. I feel like Im enabling it by being to scared to lose the relationship and also I seem to drop everything when he wants my attention.
Please give me some advice/tools to handle this better.

TIA

March 31, 2020, 01:42:01 AM
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DreamGuyxo


Well your boyfriend is 26 years old so well that he believes he’s older than you and also believes that he has his own responsibilities

The best way to get what you want out of him playing video games is to politely ask him in doing such activities with you outside of video games like going for walks around the neighborhood, or even following you to what you would like to do for your hobbies.

Gaming is a very interesting thing for men to keep up with so constantly ordering him to go away would make him feel startled which leads to arguments.

Asking kindly if he can join you in other activities so to keep him from playing games all day.

Slowly but surely he will listen......

March 31, 2020, 08:57:49 AM
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LilyPouille


You seem to make concession about this relationship and you suffer from it. From what I understand, you need him to need and love you back and actually show it to you. I think @DreamGuyxo is right about trying to ask him without making him angry, and make him understand this is what you want and need to keep the relationship going.
But I also have one question : "I feel like I'm enabling it by being to scared to lose the relationship and also I seem to drop everything when he wants my attention." : are you afraid to be alone or afraid to lose him as a boyfriend?
Live. Just live.

 

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