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July 29, 2018, 04:03:56 AM
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cunnie


I am 23 and never had a boyfriend before or dated. I am 5'4 and 119 lbs but no guys seem interested in me. I used to think I am not ugly but now I am starting to think I am because I never get male attention. I haven't tried online dating but whenever I go out, men never hit on me, flirt, or approach me. I never even have had a guy ask for my number or leave his number. I feel like I won't ever date anyone or get a boyfriend. It honestly makes me so sad because I hear stories of other women getting hit on so much by men but this practically never happens to me. The last time I was hit on was 2 years ago by my uber driver and he told me I was very attractive. I feel like other women have it so easily but I have it so hard and I don't understand why. I feel so forever alone.

July 29, 2018, 09:41:05 AM
Reply #1

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I am 23 and never had a boyfriend before or dated. I am 5'4 and 119 lbs but no guys seem interested in me. I used to think I am not ugly but now I am starting to think I am because I never get male attention. I haven't tried online dating but whenever I go out, men never hit on me, flirt, or approach me. I never even have had a guy ask for my number or leave his number. I feel like I won't ever date anyone or get a boyfriend. It honestly makes me so sad because I hear stories of other women getting hit on so much by men but this practically never happens to me. The last time I was hit on was 2 years ago by my uber driver and he told me I was very attractive. I feel like other women have it so easily but I have it so hard and I don't understand why. I feel so forever alone.

I wouldn't feel so bad on yourself, and I'd most certainly give online dating a go. Tinder, Match.com etc, it's perfectly normal to do online stating + it can help you boost your confidence!
Your friendly neighborhood moderator.=)

July 30, 2018, 12:14:12 AM
Reply #2

all-mad-here


Quality beats out quantity every time. Just because you haven't had much luck YET (and you're still young!) doesn't mean that the perfect guy for you isn't out there. Sometimes it just takes a while to find him.

In the meantime, try not to let it affect your self-confidence. Remind yourself that good things are worth waiting for. And do things you enjoy, as often as you can - if you enjoy the gym/library/museum/whatever, that just may be where you run into the guy you've been waiting for. It would be nice to start off knowing that you have something in common!

There's absolutely nothing wrong with online dating sites, either. Go with a well known site, start slow, and see if there's anyone interesting...it doesn't hurt to look.

Best of luck - you sound like a sweet girl, and I'm sure it's just a matter of time!
<3 ~ Happily Married 17 Years ~ <3

July 31, 2018, 05:17:11 AM
Reply #3

Drean


Hello! I feel the same way as you. Never had a boyfriend nor get hit on. But don't make this a reason for you to feel alone or sad. Maybe God plans to give you a nice and respectful guy. Maybe there is already a guy who likes you but you just don't know. Just wait maybe the guy would be you first and last. Your still young and you still have a long way ahead of you.

July 31, 2018, 05:34:59 AM
Reply #4

huggypillows


You are not alone dont feel upset, Im 26 years old and never dated anyone. same situation to you maybe because I dont really act a girl like others I never try to be look attractive , Because I believe of waiting that the right guy will come in no time so I just need to be the best of me. so that he will be proud of me.

July 31, 2018, 09:24:08 AM
Reply #5

Corzhens


Never admit that you are an ugly duckling. I have some friends who became an old maid regardless of their looks. But the common denominator among then is the lack of social life. From work, they go straight home. On weekends, they just stay home. And they are choosy with friends that gave an impression that not anyone can be their friends.

In short, change your attitude and outlook to be a little outgoing. Have a friendlier demeanor so that people will gravitate towards you. Lastly, don't forget to smile at people most of the time. A smile is a magnet for people.

July 31, 2018, 11:49:13 AM
Reply #6

jaymish


@Corzhens I detest the expression old maid. If you are single at a certain age you are not an old maid, you are just single. Maybe they don't want to be married and that's okay.I agree though that being more social makes it easier to make someone. 23 is still very early, you need to be patient and don't worry about it. Concentrate on living and enjoying your life. Relationships can be over rated and they can cause you a lot of pain. Concentrate on being the best version of yourself you can be.

August 01, 2018, 03:22:15 AM
Reply #7

nekonieden


I am 23 and never had a boyfriend before or dated. I am 5'4 and 119 lbs but no guys seem interested in me. I used to think I am not ugly but now I am starting to think I am because I never get male attention. I haven't tried online dating but whenever I go out, men never hit on me, flirt, or approach me. I never even have had a guy ask for my number or leave his number. I feel like I won't ever date anyone or get a boyfriend. It honestly makes me so sad because I hear stories of other women getting hit on so much by men but this practically never happens to me. The last time I was hit on was 2 years ago by my uber driver and he told me I was very attractive. I feel like other women have it so easily but I have it so hard and I don't understand why. I feel so forever alone.

Hey, don't you worry. There's a reason behind that. I was like you before that I felt like no will ever like me maybe because I am just that kind of women or something like that. Since I am very hopeless at that time, I prayed for that guy (my crush) to like me back but become friends only. I am not totally expecting that he will gonna court me but at first I don't want to entertain him because I knew that he was a bad boy and since I only want friends but one time when we find time to talk, in the middle of conversation, he suddenly kissed me on my lips and I was shocked and it really feels like an electricity strikes my body. I am not really planning to accept him but then I felt like at that time I don't want him to disappear in my life and eventually we became lovers (now an ex). When we we're in relationship (8months), I felt like I'm the only one giving the effort in our relationship. What's more important for him was his friends and games. He is an alcoholic and he don't even asked for permission when planning to go out with his friends. Our relationship was very toxic and he even had a guts to court other girls even I was his current girlfriend at that time. When we were in relationship, one time I heard a news that my family friend liked me for a long time but he don't have guts to tell the truth because he wanted to be successful first and wanted to court my parents first before me. He want my parents to be proud of him so he really wanted to fulfill his dream to become a military. I forgot that I have prayed before hoping that someday there will be one guy which will accept me and will do everything for me in a right time. He will love my parents and respect me. One thing I realized that we must wait for the right man to come, just pray and don't pray for a certain person that he/ she will like you back. Just let God find a perfect guy for you. I also realized that maybe there's a reason why sometimes we feel like no one likes us even if there is/are without knowing us maybe because we are emotionally weak and some of us will easily fall from their tricks which can cause regrets. Now I enjoy myself being single and I love it!.

Enjoy your life being single and love yourself first. How will you love others if you don't love yourself?It will eventually come but don't think of it first, okay?
« Last Edit: August 01, 2018, 03:26:02 AM by nekonieden »
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August 01, 2018, 07:18:42 AM
Reply #8

orfia


after two times of failure in relationships I never tried to fall in love again because I don't wanna kill myself anymore, I want to live longer, I want to see the beauty of life and I want to have a better future because the great revenge is to show them how much you can achieve success without them beside you. show them that after they left you, your life become better and greatest. for me after breakup I feels like I dont wanna live anymore but there is someone who is there showed to me the beauty of life and that is my big sister who's remind me that even the whole world left me she is still there advising me that there is a better life after failure,  the beauty of life after failure and the good things in life that I haven't yet recover and that is moving on is the best feeling in the world and acceptance will guide you to your better future.

August 02, 2018, 10:13:28 AM
Reply #9

Rita101


My dear no matter how ugly one thinks she is, there is a man out there is going to love you for who you are and how you look, and he will be willing to go to the ends of the earth to make you feel better, happy and loved. So my advice to you is to never be the one that looks down on yourself first because that ought to get you depressed.

August 02, 2018, 04:55:24 PM
Reply #10

jennyfermanuel


Hey girl! Don't lose hope. Don't force yourself too much. The man of your life is somewhere out there also waiting for you. I assure you, that someone will come into your life in unexpected time,
I also felt the same way before girl, but keep this in mind. For now, be busy on other things that makes you happy and inspired. Do not waste your time pitying yourself.
He will come. And he will make you feel that you're the most beautiful girl in the world.  :)

August 06, 2018, 09:15:16 AM
Reply #11

TheGoodGirl


I feel the same way about myself.

August 09, 2018, 10:43:02 PM
Reply #12

alymae


Some things are really worth the wait. This is one of them. One thing I learned from my failed relationship is that you don't have to hurry and don't ever look down on yourself. If you don't love yourself enough, who will love you for who you are? Do the things that you love.Invest in yourself. Love yourself. Develop yourself. We always ask God to give us the right person but are you the right person for him? Don't look for love, just give love and it will find you. Be positive and pray to God to guide you to find the right person and to be the best partner you can be when the time comes.

August 22, 2018, 03:11:44 PM
Reply #13

RoseKaizer


Dont think too much about that, youre just 23 years old, youre not old enough to get hopeless about love. Just wait and everythings will be fine.

August 22, 2018, 04:01:00 PM
Reply #14

ajahcuizon


Don't be too hard on yourself. The reason why there isn't someone hitting on is because the person you're waiting for is just on his way to you. You just have to wait. Just take it as a blessing that you don't have to experience the pain of losing someone you dearly love. On the mean time, take time to take care of yourself by pampering or treating yourself to salons and boutiques. Don't think that you are not attractive 'cause you are attractive on your own little way, you just have to find the right man who will appreciate everything about you.

 

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