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September 04, 2018, 08:11:55 AM
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Meme_babe95


So I've been with my boyfriend on and off for 3 years and known him for 5. We got back together this April after an 8 month breakup. Which I ended it because he was verbally abusive and taking advantage of my love and affection. Amongst other things. Never hit me or anything. Nothing like that. But so we talked out our issues but these past five months I've been making promises which I want to mean, I want to love him. But something has changed in my feelings to where it's like I'm forcing them. I care about and love him. I do, but I can't be with him. His grandpa just passed away and I don't wanna leave him like this. But I'm not 100% happy. Recently he's been spending money and spoiling me like crazy. And it's not why I want to end it but I don't think he'll understand. Which makes sense but I can't keep forcing old feelings. It's not the same as it used to be. What do I do???
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September 04, 2018, 08:55:16 AM
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goodevening


So I've been with my boyfriend on and off for 3 years and known him for 5. We got back together this April after an 8 month breakup. Which I ended it because he was verbally abusive and taking advantage of my love and affection. Amongst other things. Never hit me or anything. Nothing like that. But so we talked out our issues but these past five months I've been making promises which I want to mean, I want to love him. But something has changed in my feelings to where it's like I'm forcing them. I care about and love him. I do, but I can't be with him. His grandpa just passed away and I don't wanna leave him like this. But I'm not 100% happy. Recently he's been spending money and spoiling me like crazy. And it's not why I want to end it but I don't think he'll understand. Which makes sense but I can't keep forcing old feelings. It's not the same as it used to be. What do I do???

Hey @Meme_babe95, welcome to the forums btw.

Whatever decision you do decide to make, you need to ensure that you're 100% about it, as there will most likely be no going back when you do decide.

Some of the questions you need to ask yourself are: Do you love him? Would you be all OK with just being friends and not being affectionate?

How would you react if you saw him with another woman? Because that's the reality, this is what will happen after you split, he'll find another girl.

Hope you get this sorted, sorry to hear that you're going through this.

September 04, 2018, 09:03:31 AM
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Meme_babe95


Thank you. I am alright with him being with someone else. Obviously there will be history with him and I. And I don't like the going back and forth. It's just hurting both of us doing the on and off.

September 05, 2018, 08:13:05 PM
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Thank you. I am alright with him being with someone else. Obviously there will be history with him and I. And I don't like the going back and forth. It's just hurting both of us doing the on and off.

I hope you're okay, but that's a good sign that you wouldn't mind him being with someone else, as long as he's happy, I suppose?

You wouldn't know that you'd be all OK with it though until you see it (if you ever do).

Let us know how you get on, what does your gut say?

September 05, 2018, 08:26:19 PM
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So I've been with my boyfriend on and off for 3 years and known him for 5. We got back together this April after an 8 month breakup. Which I ended it because he was verbally abusive and taking advantage of my love and affection. Amongst other things. Never hit me or anything. Nothing like that. But so we talked out our issues but these past five months I've been making promises which I want to mean, I want to love him. But something has changed in my feelings to where it's like I'm forcing them. I care about and love him. I do, but I can't be with him. His grandpa just passed away and I don't wanna leave him like this. But I'm not 100% happy. Recently he's been spending money and spoiling me like crazy. And it's not why I want to end it but I don't think he'll understand. Which makes sense but I can't keep forcing old feelings. It's not the same as it used to be. What do I do???

Hey @Meme_babe95, welcome to the forums btw.

Whatever decision you do decide to make, you need to ensure that you're 100% about it, as there will most likely be no going back when you do decide.

Some of the questions you need to ask yourself are: Do you love him? Would you be all OK with just being friends and not being affectionate?

How would you react if you saw him with another woman? Because that's the reality, this is what will happen after you split, he'll find another girl.

Hope you get this sorted, sorry to hear that you're going through this.

I agree you need to be certain with your decision.

To give this thread more context, I have updated the topic title to: I don't love my boyfriend anymore, how do I end the relationship?
Your friendly neighborhood moderator.=)

 

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