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Author Topic: Concerned about my best friends intentions

October 14, 2019, 02:55:37 AM
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I'm not really sure what to do right now or where or how to begin.

I’m 24. My husband and I are currently going through a really rough patch in our relationship at this time. It started about 5 months ago a month after I had a baby girl (she is 6 months old). Our relationship has gotten so bad that we are essentially separated and “taking a break” from each other. Me and the baby moved back to my dad and stepmom’s for a short time.  We weren’t communicating and constantly fighting and I felt I needed some time to think.

It’s been so hard going through this. I love my husband so much and it hurts that I feel like I am loosing my best friend and love of my life. We are so close but we are so far apart. There are days when I sit in bed, alone, and cry. I can’t figure it out.

Anyhow, my best friend has been a great support. We talk a lot and I have been very open with her about my feelings.

But now I am starting wonder about her intentions and whether it was a bad mistake to open up to her.

Yesterday my sister texted me and said her husband saw my husband and best friend having dinner together. I was so caught off guard. I texted her and casually brought it up and she brushed it off as “totally nothing” and asked me why I am “making a big deal about it”?  She made a big deal about how we are separated and then admitted that she’s been talking to him trying to help him understand my feelings.  She got upset and said this is the thanks I get for helping a friend?

I have this extremely uncomfortable feeling about this; it just seems wrong. I’ve put myself out, I’ve talked about how I feel, shared my fears and concerns, made myself so vulnerable and have even cried around her in so many conversations. I feel somewhat betrayed.

Now I am so worried that she is trying to get between us and am wondering whether or not she she has an ulterior motive. I never asked her to talk to my husband ok about our problems nor did I expect her to share what I shared with her in private.

Am I overreacting by feeling this way?  How should I approach it? Part of me what’s to confront her and tell her to basically f-off and stay away from my family (me, my husband and baby). The other part of me wants to give her the benefit of the doubt and think that she is really trying to help.

I am so lost on how to deal with this..
« Last Edit: October 14, 2019, 02:57:18 AM by a_Cdn_grl »


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