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Author Topic: Boyfriend says he "loves me too much" yet sometimes acts cold... Thoughts??

March 27, 2019, 01:50:58 PM
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My boyfriend and I have been together a little over a year, and I know he loves me. He saves my notes I write him, pictures I send him, and most of the time is super loving & affectionate. He has pretty bad father issues, and his family often puts that stress on him. He's also a college athlete. But sometimes, he messes with me in front of his friends or acts a little cold when we're alone too. But as soon as I get upset he immediately tries to fix it and turns sweet again. After one of the nights he felt a little distant to me, going to bed he said "I love you don't forget that" and so I knew there had to be a deeper issue. He sometimes says he loves me too much, or will randomly ask me if I love him or why I like him because he's "crazy" (he's not at all). Especially when he's drunk he is obsessed with me, can't stop showering me with affection, has said he wants to marry me, and would kill for me. He's insecure and so he likes to put on a big front, always has a big talk about many things just to seem cooler. But what could the coldness derive from here? I'm lost at what to think, and I take it to heart often. :-\
« Last Edit: March 27, 2019, 01:52:44 PM by love2talklove »

March 28, 2019, 01:06:44 AM
Reply #1


I think you answered your question, he loves you but he has issues he need to figure out and you may need to talk to him about it Nd his looking cool issue. Also try reminding him that his a kool guy and he dont need to over do stuff

April 04, 2019, 09:02:32 AM
Reply #2


He’s very much in love with you, I can tell. His own issues that you had stated he has are like a weight on his shoulders and he is insecure about them and how they could affect you. The cold remarks are unnecessary however, and if he’s aware of it he should know to stop. It’s clear that he’s out to impress his peers and upsetting you in the process is not needed. I would suggest you sit him down for a serious conversation about it again, and stating that it is jeopardising your feelings for him and that he doesn’t need to act that way to be cool. Good luck!

April 08, 2019, 01:06:36 PM
Reply #3


i think he do loveyou a lot but there might be a burden over him that mightve taken a toll on him and you are the only person with whom he canbe what he truly feels like. I mean youre the only person that understands him at a deeper level. so just support him and when he isacting cold dont get mad at him at that point because that might make him feel that youre not understanding him. just let that phase go and when you can see that he is doing good or is showering you with affection have a healthy discussion about your feelings on how his behaviour makes you feel at that moment and what he was thinking and what could be done to prevent that from happening.


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