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Author Topic: Blocked him but I miss him. Should I give it another shot?

January 28, 2020, 02:23:52 PM
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vivian


I met him online a few months ago. He told me he was looking for smth serious (getting married) and also asked me If I was thinking about marriage, too. After talking about ourselves he told me he was very interested in me and he couldt wait to meet me but we kept talking on messenger for months.

He was telling me he missed me, he was calling me "his girl" and he started getting more intimate in our conversations. His excuse for not meeting in person was that he was abroad for business and then when he came back, he was offering hospitality to family members.
I began getting attached to him and our conversations, I really liked him and I tried to be cool about him not initiating a real date even though he kept telling me he wanted me so much.

We tried meeting in person after 2 months but that didn't happen (he called me the last minute for the details, and I told him to postpone it since he didn;t call me on time) He then went on vacation for 2 months and through all that time our talks became more and more intimate. I wasn't feeling comfortable with that but I was attached to him.

When I told him I wanted to meet him in person because I wanted something serious and not just an online flirt he asked me out (told me he was missing me) but he insisted on meeting me in my home because he was tired. When I told him I would only meet him in public he told me I wasn't trusting him after all that time.

His refusal to meet me in public even though he coulnt wait to meet me (as he used to say) really disappointed me and made me really question his intentions.
On that day, i decided to cut every bond: i blocked him on messenger and "unfriended" him on fb. He sent me a friend request again but I ignored that and kept him blocked in messenger in order to move on.
Three months have been passed with no contact and he just deleted his friend request. Even though I wasn't planning to accept it, this movement was an actual "fullstop" I suppose, and it shocked me.

Is there a chance he was really serious about this and I misunderstood him or did he just want sex? I miss him and I want to text him so bad..
« Last Edit: January 28, 2020, 02:26:33 PM by vivian »

January 28, 2020, 11:06:20 PM
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Lioness


I think you did the right thing. Asking to meet in public was not a big deal in my eyes. The fact that he didn’t understand bothers me and it should bother you as well

January 29, 2020, 09:11:35 AM
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Kkxrina


Hey girl, I know it must've been tough for you having to go through all of this emotional turmoil and dealing with the somewhat mixed signals this man sends you. I say mixed signals because he says one thing and his actions are completely opposite, yes you did the right thing by blocking him because this relationship was certainly not going anywhere. Him saying "he misses you" and "wants to see you" sounds likes utter BS and it's basically his strategy to keep you there. If this man was truly interested in something serious with you he would've asked you out  long ago because people make time for what matters to them, if the only form of communication you guys have is texting than that in itself is a red flag. Have you seen pictures of him, have you video chatted and talked on the phone? If not then maybe he's a catfish. You did the right thing. Now my concern is why would you settle for something so little, as mere texts and even allowing someone to cross your personal boundaries? I think you should do some serious introspection and move on and work on being a better you.

January 30, 2020, 01:20:13 PM
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vivian


Have you seen pictures of him, have you video chatted and talked on the phone? If not then maybe he's a catfish. You did the right thing. Now my concern is why would you settle for something so little, as mere texts and even allowing someone to cross your personal boundaries? I think you should do some serious introspection and move on and work on being a better you.

Actually we  communicated through messenger calls and  video chatted on messenger twice (his idea)...Anyway, thanks for the reply. I guess both of you are right. I just thought a 40year old man would be a liitle bit more serious and not such a time waster. Therefore Ι wanted to believe what he said like a silly little girl....


February 02, 2020, 04:03:31 PM
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SomeGuy


Yeah he was a time waster. Could have been an internet troll for all you know. If you can't meet up with someone within a month or two of talking to them online then somethings wrong.

February 06, 2020, 12:52:38 AM
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kourtneyny


I think you did the right thing, meeting in public shouldn't have been an issue if he was truly interested.

March 07, 2020, 12:58:13 AM
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samsome369


hi gal, I was in your shoes before. and here's an article that really helped me when I was struggling at the bottom.
I hope it could give you some enlightenment and inspiration like it helped me  :)

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wish you have a great future with your loved one.

 

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