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Author Topic: Arrogant boyfriend - would you end it?

July 16, 2018, 01:45:31 PM
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Summersun18


During a family game of football down the park he won and he said "I always win at everything in life" .. it was sort of jokey but he generally thinks very highly of himself.. so this comment made me cringe - am i over reacting?

It sounds minor and petty but he has a v good job car pension and at 40 has paid off a lot of his huge mortgage on his big house so yes he is doing well in that side of life but i hate that hes a trumpet blower!

He's also said things like he thinks hes a better partner than most men (when he does stuff around the house). Hes said before "i think im a good catch".

He say things like he doesnt do things by half..when he does something he goes all out to make it the best (this was after i commented hes never taken me away for the weekend).. so he was suggesting he hasn't yet but when he does it'll be the best!

Ive spoken to him about it and he says he knows he has arrogant streaks and that theres nothing wrong with confidence (ive tried to explain the difference). Hes not rude to waiters, doesnt have self esteem issues etc hes just a trumpet blower and believes hes a great catch.

I know its how i feel not what others think but id be very interested in which is any of the above would be a big no no for you?? Or am i over reacting??

July 20, 2018, 04:28:25 PM
Reply #1

jaymish


I guess it depends on whether you think that he is a good person. Also does what he says and does irritate you? To reach how far he has reached he has to have had some confidence. I think expecting him to be humble is too much. I think you have to chose whether it's something you can live with. I would ask myself is he a good person?does he treat me well?Is he kind to other people? If he is I don't see the problem. All the rest is bravado, and life has a way of getting rid of that.

July 23, 2018, 04:22:23 AM
Reply #2

RoseKaizer


It depends, if you know that your boyfriend is a good person and for me you can really feel it if your partner or boyfriend is a good person. Maybe he us just very vocal and straight when talking. And if there is really a big achievement in his life at his age, maybe he is just proud of himself. No reason to breakup with him.

July 25, 2018, 06:21:39 PM
Reply #3

QueenFarLou


Even if he was jokingly saying it, for me that was a major turn off. It speaks so negatively of his character, how highly he looks at himself and subsequently how he look at other people.

July 29, 2018, 12:43:47 PM
Reply #4

Lissiel


In my point of view, as long that you know that he is a good man inside then I see no problem with him. We all our pros and cons regarding our personality and maybe his cons is being too arrogant. If you see yourself being his wife and waking up with him every morning for the rest of your life--fight for him; if not then that's the time you will end it.

July 30, 2018, 02:48:56 PM
Reply #5

Corzhens


This reminds me of a suitor who was handsome, rich and educated. He was introduced to me by my best friend. On our first date, that was all I heard from him - the I, the me. It's like everything revolves around him. I don't find him arrogant though but maybe just egocentric or a braggart. On the next day, I told my best friend that I wouldn't want to see the guy again. And my best friend seemed to be puzzled because, as I said, the guy seemed to be a good catch. I don't think I could live with a person who talks all the time about himself. I want an ordinary guy to enjoy my life with.

August 07, 2018, 12:09:48 PM
Reply #6

alymae


Arrogant? It's a big turn off for me. Do you want to be with a guy who loves himself too much? You can be successful and still be humble. Maybe there are occasions that you can boast about yourself and your achievements. But your guy is definitely bragging. It's like he is telling you, "Hey, I'm a catch. I'm great. I'm successful. You cannot find someone like me." Yeah, right ???. This happened to me. My ex boyfriend keeps talking about how great he is and that I'm so lucky to have him. Everytime we fight, he wins. I don't have a choice in the matter. Mind you, he treats me really well. But his self-importance gets in the way. Arrogant people have big egos and most of them don't accept there mistakes.

August 18, 2018, 03:51:16 PM
Reply #7

ajahcuizon


For me, it is natural for men to have such high confidence because it is their way to think that they can do anything. It also helps them feel braver and stronger. In your situation, as long as your boyfriend doesn't hurt anyone too much, physically or psychologically, still accept him. He might be blowing up his trumpet so hard for you to bear it, but that's him, you should love him because thag is him. Someday you'll get used to his bragging and you'll never notice that it was once irritating for you. Jist be strong and accept him for what he is. :)

August 18, 2018, 05:52:44 PM
Reply #8

Steve5


This reminds me of a suitor who was handsome, rich and educated. He was introduced to me by my best friend. On our first date, that was all I heard from him - the I, the me. It's like everything revolves around him. I don't find him arrogant though but maybe just egocentric or a braggart. On the next day, I told my best friend that I wouldn't want to see the guy again. And my best friend seemed to be puzzled because, as I said, the guy seemed to be a good catch. I don't think I could live with a person who talks all the time about himself. I want an ordinary guy to enjoy my life with.

That's really interesting. I guess it's a matter of being able to live with someone. Some people can go with such strong personalities. But most people probably won't like someone as vocal as that.

 

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