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Author Topic: Anger Management - Fearful it will turn into more

February 24, 2020, 12:41:31 PM
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Jacs1983


Hello!
My husband has anger issues. He gets overly angry and upset at almost any situation that doesn't go his way.
I've already decided to myself that we are never getting another animal, and we are not going to have children because I'm afraid that his anger will spill out onto a baby/child. While he doesn't beat our dogs, he screams at them all of the time and pushes them away, which is the saddest thing in the world to me because they love him so much. Then his brain flips and he's the best dog dad ever, playing with them, rolling around with them etc.

A few weeks ago we were having an argument and I dropped a piece of dog bone on the floor (out of aggravation of having to deal with his tantrum, i didn't throw it at him, I just dropped it and walked away.) he picked it up and hurled it at me. It hit me on my bottom. I called him out on it and he said that I threw the dog bone at him first and that he wasn't aiming for my butt. etc... then he proceeded to call me a cry baby. Whenever we argue, if I walk away and go into the bedroom by myself, or if he notices I start crying, he calls me a cry baby. This is his new thing.

I'm afraid that this is going to escalate and his behavior won't stop there. I have asked him repeatedly to go and talk to someone, to get help, but he refuses. I've told him to let me deal with the dogs when they become too over whelming for him, but instead he storms out and insists on screaming and threatening. This isn't the man I married. The man I married was warm and spontaneous, not lazy, happy and interested in me.  He also always brings up "well we can get divorced"... I've told him if he didn't want to be with me, then he could just leave.

Am I being oversensitive? Am I wrong to fear for my own safety and the safety of my dogs? Am I wrong for not wanting to go home every single day and get *****ed at about something new? There's always something. I leave the curtains open, or I didn't put the water bowl down, or I put my jacket on top of his, or my mom left the stove light on... things that are little and no big deal to most adults escalate quickly in our house. I just don't know what to do. I don't think our marriage is going to work out, and I don't think he wants to fix it. He really has me thinking I am the problem. I don't know what to do or how to change.

And please note, I'm not an angel. He starts on me and i stand up for myself or i flat out tell him I don't want to hear it anymore.

February 26, 2020, 09:39:18 PM
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thenoto2020


Do you want him to stop being angry at you and start treating you like a queen? Then watch this webinar and use those methods on your husband after that he'll be obsessed with you. http://bit.ly/his_secretobsession

 

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