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September 17, 2019, 09:04:38 AM
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Jan


Hello everyone!

This message ended up being quite long, but bear with me, in the end you won’t regret it.

Along the years I’ve been in several long term relationships. I was in a marriage until 3 years ago and before that I was in relationship with my high school sweetheart for over 5 years. After a painful divorce I met the woman of my dreams, by sheer coincidence and I’m in the best relationship so far. Partly due to me learning how to be a better partner and changing my behavior, partly because of her and how evolved she is in terms of handling conflict, and dealing with my moods wings.

I don’t regret being in any of the other relationships, although looking back, they weren’t the healthy relationships to say the least. I do see a lot of things that I could have handled differently or ways in which my behavior wasn’t constructive.

Over the course of last year I met back with an old friend who I met at college, Johan. We were good friends back then, but you know how it goes with careers and kids and so on, we lost track of each other. Over coffee we discussed the relationships we were in and I confessed about my divorce and all the painful memories, but how I feel better and happier than ever. He was particularly curious about how I managed to be in a bad relationship for so long and what I thought was the cause of why the current relationship is doing so well.

He kept asking specific questions like: how do you manage household chores, or do you have couple’s meetings, and if so, how often… Not that I was awkward to answer him, but it felt a bit odd. After a while he told me he was obsessed by the mechanisms of how to keep a relationship healthy, and how to stay in love. After some time he told me he was working on a book about the topic. Now I got curious, since I work in publishing industry. It turns out he was studying this topic since our college years while writing is his thoughts and experiences down. We met many times after that and we talked a lot about relationships, communication, love, conflict and he slowly explained to me his theory about how to create a healthy loving relationship that lasts.
 We decided to team up forces, and offered I might help him get a good publishing deal.
Fast forward to today and we are close to release day of Johan’s book!

Now, you might be wondering, what is all this about but this is the part where you come in.
I need your opinion! We need your help putting the last touch on the lay-out, the cover and most importantly, we need readers! You don’t need to buy the book, this isn’t some sales pitch. We are building a “launch team” that can give us their thoughts about the content of the book. Trust me, you’ll love it. I learned so much about relationship communication. You’ll learn how adapting habits will support and deepen your bond, create a more intimate relationship and stay in love. Send me a PM and you’ll get a free version of the e-book, no secret offers, we merely want to reach out to the community and get your honest opinion. If you love to read about this topic and want to get a chance to be in a book-launch team, this is your chance. There’s only a limited amount of spots available so if you’re interested, don’t hesitate.
Have a nice day! Jan

 

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