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January 21, 2019, 01:12:19 AM
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A guy friend and I have been friends for years. We used to have crushes on each other and hung out a lot but nothing ever happened. We worked together which is probably why. But we know longer work together. He did start seeing someone last year, but now thats over. He had started texting me quiet a bit - more than usual- the last couple months. He had sent me a couple pictures of himself doing stuff, I replied with compliments - “you look handsome”, etc. So a few days later I decided to send pictures- one of me hiking, other, just a selfie when I was out- and I got no replies. It’s been a couple weeks. Why? I’m sad considering he’s known me for several years- we are friends —he has liked me for awhile, like he doesn’t have 5 minutes to text back? I haven’t heard from him since. And we never send pictures, so I was kind of making myself vulnerable. Why would this friend just ghost me?

January 21, 2019, 09:50:14 AM
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A guy friend and I have been friends for years. We used to have crushes on each other and hung out a lot but nothing ever happened. We worked together which is probably why. But we know longer work together. He did start seeing someone last year, but now thats over. He had started texting me quiet a bit - more than usual- the last couple months. He had sent me a couple pictures of himself doing stuff, I replied with compliments - “you look handsome”, etc. So a few days later I decided to send pictures- one of me hiking, other, just a selfie when I was out- and I got no replies. It’s been a couple weeks. Why? I’m sad considering he’s known me for several years- we are friends —he has liked me for awhile, like he doesn’t have 5 minutes to text back? I haven’t heard from him since. And we never send pictures, so I was kind of making myself vulnerable. Why would this friend just ghost me?

Aren't you able to approach him directly @Stellar123 - or message him on facebook or something?

But I do feel your pain, you don't seem wanted and that he isn't bothered with you. Yes you could chase him, but then if he isn't replying that quite clearly he isn't interested in speaking to you :3 - but then why engage in the first place?

bloody men.

oh BTW, never ever send nudes. That's backfired on me (not that you were going to anyway!)

January 21, 2019, 03:09:00 PM
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Thanks MissG- Oh I would never send nudes- ever! We don’t live in the same state but we communicate- or used to- until the picture thing - fairly often. We aren’t friends on Facebook but we could be - we just always connected via phone and text so social media wasn’t necessary and neither of us use it that often. Anyway, one night a few weeks ago he sent me a picture of him out doing a sporting event- so I assume he’s interested. Then he sent me another pic a week later. He started this whole thing so I thought me
sending pictures of me doing stuff was ok. But him not replying makes me feel like he doesn’t care. I said happy new year and he didn’t say that back. He’s been traveling for work most of this month, including the week I texted him and including this week, but I feel like it should only take 1 min to text back. It makes me sad.

January 23, 2019, 12:50:38 PM
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Thanks MissG- Oh I would never send nudes- ever! We don’t live in the same state but we communicate- or used to- until the picture thing - fairly often. We aren’t friends on Facebook but we could be - we just always connected via phone and text so social media wasn’t necessary and neither of us use it that often. Anyway, one night a few weeks ago he sent me a picture of him out doing a sporting event- so I assume he’s interested. Then he sent me another pic a week later. He started this whole thing so I thought me
sending pictures of me doing stuff was ok. But him not replying makes me feel like he doesn’t care. I said happy new year and he didn’t say that back. He’s been traveling for work most of this month, including the week I texted him and including this week, but I feel like it should only take 1 min to text back. It makes me sad.

aw that is sad, I also have the mindset as you with the whole texting thing ... it takes one minute! How difficult is it?

If I am going to be honest, it doesn't sound like you're on the forefront of his mind, but you are in the very early stages.

I have previously had boyfriends that I didn't take seriously / and or didn't pay a lot of attention to, but overtime, the attraction grew on me.

I'd still pursue it, but don't make it seem like you're hounding on at him! He needs to also want to talk to you, too @Stellar123

January 24, 2019, 02:09:53 AM
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Thanks! Well I’ve known him a long time as a friend, but I don’t think I want to contact him. He’s not being respectful by not replying. It would be great if he had a good reason for it but there’s really no good reason for it.

 

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