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Author Topic: What should I do??

May 06, 2019, 07:10:57 AM
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I am in love with my best friend. Ive known her since pre-k but we’ve been friends for about 4-5 years now(both hs juniors). For my junior and senior year, I moved to a residential hs for Science and math. Ever since I’ve been gone, I’ve realized how I felt for her and how much she meant to me. I come home about once per month, and every time we go out for food (just as friends) just to catch up. It’s come to a point where I’m fantasizing about these outings weeks before and after we have them. I’ve been close to dropping out of this school and going back to my home school just to be nearer to her, which my friends at this school have convinced me against (not sacrificing school for a girl) which is reasonable but I still think about it. Just recently we went to her prom together (again just as friends). We took pictures/ate out with our friend group then went to the dance. I don’t dance at all, I like to say I have THREE left feet instead of two. Anyways once the first song played we kinda hung on the side but eventually started dancing. At first we were well “leaving room for Jesus” since it was kinda awkward. But after that song we were almost as close together as any couple there. She even got me to line dance/dance to most of the songs. Once we were leaving the dance, walking to the car, she didn’t have her shoes on and the road was rough gravel. In no means am I buff or strong or anywhere close to strong, but I carried her(cradled in my arms) to the car, even though she didn’t think I could ( “you know I’m like 130 lbs right?”). It was about 100 ft and I didn’t have much trouble getting to the car. But halfway to the car she kisses me on my cheek(just a little peck, nothing huge) and I was stunned. Thankfully I kept walking and even more thankfully I didn’t drop her out of my pure surprise (we only hug a little). After that she said a little joke, something like “I better not feel anything poking me after that” .  And I kinda laughed it off (I thankfully didn’t get hard) We got to the car and never mentioned it again. We went to sonic with some of our friends and then one of our friends and her bf went to  her house just to chill( it was storming pretty  badly). We all changed to comfortable clothes and were in the living room her and I sitting on a Love seat and our friend and her bf on the couch. We were both pretty tired, we both got about 4 hours of sleep the night before. Out of nowhere she starts to rest her head on my shoulder. This didn’t seem to unusual until she basically laid across my chest with my arm around her. I was pretty tired so I rested my head on hers. We never really went to sleep but we got up because her parents made us food. Then I went home. It’s been a few days now and I can’t stop replaying the whole night in my head. I definitely don’t want to over read anything. I can’t think in the mindset of a female. I’d like some (truly) honest opinions on what y’all think she was thinking/doing? I’d like to have a good idea on how I should approach our relationship later on.

May 11, 2019, 06:07:57 AM
Reply #1


She could be in to you, or just comfortable with you. That is a tough age since you both could be going your seperate ways soon, more than you are now of course. Next time you see her, give her a hug, not a bro hug, tell her you have missed her. Tell her you want to take her out on a date. Be wiity, ask her if she will be your date tonight, tomorrow, whatever. Do you drive? Can you take her out to a decent place? Not taco bell, nothing crazy, think outback or a less mainstream place if you have one close. See where it goes. Be prepared for it to not go anywhere. I know, it sucks. Do not under any circumstances change your educational trajectory for her. Stay in touch with her. As you get older you will have better opportunity to follow up with her if you still mesh and stay in touch. Worst case from all this, you may have a great night with her and grow closer as friends.