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Author Topic: What do I do about my ex?

February 27, 2020, 06:31:50 PM
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I will try to keep this as short as possible. So currently my ex-fiance and I are at a strange crossroads. Some backstory...We were together for 6 years and engage for one of those years before she called off the wedding. This was due to me lying to her about different things, and she had had enough of the lies (totally my fault). The only reason I lie is because she does have a temper and I despise confrontation. Either way, we haven't been together for about a year now, but we do have a 4 year old son together. Therefore, I spend every weekend at her house so that I can spend time with them, and truth be told, her and I are best friends. Hell we even share the same bed. Over the past year of not being together, we have still had sex on many occasions and she has acted like we're a couple again very often. I was hopeful that we would soon be together officially again. Then, something happened. In January, she asked me if I'd like to move in full time and I hesitated. She became cold after that. When Valentine's Day came, I joked about her being my Valentine and she freaked, saying we're not together. I, since have asked for another chance to move in and try to make our little family work but she shut me down. She says when she asked me in January, she was giving one last chance and that I shut the door essentially.

I know that I have made mistakes, but I really do love her and want to fix this. She acknowledges that we've been very cozy over the past year and that this needs to change. She recently was asked out by a co-worker and I'm wondering if she wants to move on.

My plan is to tell her this weekend while I'm staying over, that I wish that she would re-consider me moving in. I want to explain that she has nothing to lose and everything to gain because she'll know within a few weeks whether it's working or not. Either I flake out, it doesn't feel right, or moving in does work. Those are the three options and we should at least try so that "what if" factor doesn't linger for the rest of our lives. And if it doesn't work out, we can both move on and live our lives. Does this sound like a decent plan? What should I do?

I apologize if this was all over the place. I did leave out some details as it's lot, but I'm very frantic right now.

March 04, 2020, 08:47:19 AM
Reply #1


Heavy situation dude I’m going through some bad stuff myself don’t know wether I’m coming or going it’s her who upset me and now wants me back the balls in my court I’ve got a young family I wanna make this work but I’m scared of getting hurt again

March 04, 2020, 10:31:48 AM
Reply #2


the context you are forced into is not easy, also because there is a middle child.
my suggestion therefore is to understand what you want!
sometimes what you feel inside is not love but fear of being alone, not feeling loved by anyone,
and therefore we attach ourselves to happy ricirdi ... and this makes us believe that it is still love.
I don't want to question your feelings but think about it ...
good luck! ;)

March 04, 2020, 12:48:34 PM
Reply #3


It is not a big deal to move on in a relationship the male or the female can move on but he should be taking care of all the things occurring in the future whether it would be good for your future and leaving the person can eliminate all the hurdles in both of your life however the best thing to do is sit together and talk...