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Author Topic: This girl is giving me the silent treatment (LONG)

April 02, 2020, 09:37:18 AM
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ItsOneCrazyWorld


So, i met this girl at the gym a couple of months ago. We started talking and training together almost every other day for the past 3-4 months. With time, it felt like we became really good friends, and i could feel she was at ease around me (she told me she had been harassed a couple of times at that gym, before i met her). Slowly but surely, we started hanging out outside of going to the gym. We hung out and talked about our lives and our personal stories etc. Now, in my mind, i saw her as a friend, someone i could talk to and trust, and she talked about other guys with me, so i assumed that it was the same case for her.

So after a couple weeks of everything going well, we start having arguments about the smallest things: I tried to give her advice on her form, she rejected it saying she didn't need any advice from me. Sometimes when i tried to make conversation she told me i was annoying her. Out of nowhere, it started feeling like every thing i did, even though i had good intentions, annoyed the hell out of her. Like what i said would make her feel like wasn't good enough or that she didn't know anything. She misinterpreted everything i said and turned it into an attack aimed at her. That's when the silent treatment first started, she would ignore my texts and calls for days on end, and just go the gym alone. She would act like i didn't exist until i sent her a long text apologizing (I still don't know what i apologized for, and it doesn't seem like she knows what she wanted me to apologize for either).

Anyways, the second time she gave me the silent treament, i decided i would just move on with my life, because it wasn't worth it wasting anymore time trying to please a person who just doesn't want me around. But before i did that, i wanted to clear things up by asking her how and why i annoyed her (she replied saying it was just who i was as a person). And i aksed her if she ever saw us as friends (she replied no, saying she just saw me as a dude she went to the gym with, and we didn't need to be friends to workout together). So after hearing her answers, i decided i would keep working out with her, not as her friend, but as someone she worked out with. The whole relationship went back to square one, and it stayed there. I wasn't saying anything to her, other than what was necessary. After a couple of days she starts being more talkative, and she started longer conversations with me. Before i know it, we're back to joking, laughing and talking about everything else but our workouts. It felt like everything was going good again...

Until she started getting annoyed AGAIN by every little thing i would do or say. Now she's ignoring me again, and i'm so confused as to why she behaves this way. I've tried being more sensitive, i've tried refraining from saying things that might offend her. I've tried being cautious with what i say, what i tell her, how i tell her, how i say things...

My questions are, what could i possibly be doing, that would make her act like this towards me ? What should i do ? Should i just forget about her and move on, like i intended to, the second time she gave me the silent treatment ?

April 03, 2020, 05:35:32 AM
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LilyPouille


Hi Itsonecrazyworld!

I think in a relationship, both people should be able to express themself, not only one who is always afraid of what he/she might say to not hurt the other person.
In your case, the girl knows or don't know she is actually hurting you by acting the way she does. She speaks with you, whenever she wants, told you it's you as person the problem, stops talking to you for whatever reasons and then reconnect with you.
We don't know why she's acting this way, but someone should not hurt freely other people like she does. From what you say, the problem is not coming from you.

I think you should move on, you already tried to know why she's acting this way, if it was you the problem and if you can actually solve it.
Don't waste your time with people who makes you feel hard to love. I would also advise you, to have a different partner in gym, it would be easier for you.

Good luck buddy!
Live. Just live.

April 25, 2020, 03:21:00 AM
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April 26, 2020, 01:23:41 PM
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Okay hi there, my name is vivian and am a relationship and dating advisor.

With what you have said so far it sounds like someone in a toxic relationship. There is no need to sweet talk it, am going to be blunt with you because i think it's what you need.
I personally think you have developed some feeling for this girl unknowingly and she knows it as well. You need to be honest with yourself and embrace it that way you both actually know where you stand. OR you can stop talking to her completely, even if she tries talking to you do no acknowledge her because she is playing with your emotions. If you keep apologizing to her or trying to talk to her (chase her) it's going to get worst and get to a point where all you do is curse each other or say mean things.

I hope it helps

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May 01, 2020, 02:53:41 AM
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May 01, 2020, 02:54:43 AM
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Sometimes it's best to speak to someone over the phone about your problem writing it out in 5 pages online can get tiresome my name is Michelle located in Philadelphia here to help you and give advice you can send an email International typist2014@gmail.com I only take payments through cash app 30 minutes is $25,   45 minutes is $30 and 1 hour is $40 of talk time. Once you decide that you need help you can send an email you can indicate the amount of time you would like to chat,  once i get that email I will give you my phone number, while were on the phone together you can make your payment

May 03, 2020, 09:48:11 PM
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Tommycheu


Unfortunately I would say move on. You’ve tried a couple of times and the other reply is right, it doesn’t seem like it’s anything that you are doing. If things are challenging as of now and the little things are an issue, later on down the line, it will most likely just get worse. Best of luck!

 

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