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April 18, 2018, 01:39:58 PM
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Shy men are in a world of pain.  That's especially true if they are larger, short, or skinny, hence only appealing to a niche group of women I think.  So how can men overcome shyness?
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April 19, 2018, 07:29:08 AM
Reply #1


As a shy guy myself, I guess it wouldn't hurt to change just a little especially with the image and the personality. Some shy men doesn't actually want to change because they don't want to be criticized for changing themselves for the sake of their public image. For me, that shouldn't be the case. You have to change for your own sake, not thinking of what would others think about you. Before, I was actually very shy, fat and I had a lot of acne. When I reached college, I started to treat my pimples and started to wear nicer clothes as well as starting to eat less and healthier. I also started socializing with people and talking more and more with others so that my confidence level could rise.

It actually depends upon us if we still want to live with shyness. I actually know a lot of people who still remains with comfort zone because they feel comfortable with it. However, if you're not comfortable and you feel like it's a hindrance to your happiness, then I guess a small change wouldn't hurt at all.
« Last Edit: April 19, 2018, 07:30:58 AM by sarangjaybee »

April 19, 2018, 07:48:38 AM
Reply #2


The reality is that most people will experience shyness from time to time throughout their lives.
If you feel stressed before, during, or after a social interaction, continually remind yourself that these awkward moments aren’t survival threats. When you start feeling those anxious, shy feelings, keep repeating to yourself: “Everything’s fine. My brain thinks it’s 10,000 BC and is overreacting. I’m not in danger of dying on the savanna. I’m not in danger of dying on the savanna.”
Decide that it’s okay if some people don’t like you, you don’t like some people, after all! Work on making more eye contact with people.If you’re looking to get over your social shyness so that you can make new friends, consider volunteering your services for organizations that align with your interests and values.Quit thinking about yourself because other people aren’t! Self-consciousness is the fuel that keeps shyness going and is the obstacle that gets in the way of successfully socializing.
I was once a very shy person and I'm shy every now and then.

April 19, 2018, 09:49:48 AM
Reply #3


To be truthful, I myself was shy during my school days and always ended up alone most of the times-like during girl-boy groups as no girl wanted to be with a shy/boring kid.

But now I can confidently tell you that, however shy you maybe if you have cash, relationships won't be so hard.Just make sure you do not over-spend on that attractive lady.

April 19, 2018, 11:02:10 AM
Reply #4


There's nothing wrong about being shy.  Shy guys are cute actually. A shy guys should be coupled to a loud girl so it will be balanced but it depends really on the personality and how you will accept each others flaws.

April 19, 2018, 11:14:55 AM
Reply #5


Shyness of men and women are the same. The best thing to overcome this is to practice or push your self to communicate or socialize to other people. You must learn how to talk with them in order for you to relate with them as well. I've been a shy type before and it took me for a long time before I can finally let my self talk to other people without any fear. Just trust your self you can do it and believe that you are one of them. Practicing is always an effective tool to achieve a goal so practice and practice.

April 19, 2018, 11:44:18 AM
Reply #6


How to overcome shyness? We see being shy is most men do specially if they are lacking self-confidence. But this problem could be solved in a complicated way. Yes, it is complicated but by practicing this solution daily then you will overcome shyness and girls would be easily attracted to you.
I have been there, I was once a shy type guy but now I am considered as a chick-magnet.
There are tips that I recommend that would overcome your shyness.
1. You must stick with confident people, you must be friends with people that are cool, and they will help you how to be a cool guy too.
2. You can practice everyday talking in the mirror a just like your imagining that you are talking to a girl. Act like a gentleman because girls loves to be respected and treated like they are different from another girl.
3. When you are in the public, walk with confidence don’t walk with head down. You must walk like a alpha m. you must walk with chest up and your head up facing the people around you and when someone approaches you, you must smile and answer them with calmness.
4. Be a good listener and a good advicer too, in order to be confident, you must learn to listen to others opinion and learn to analyze every thoughts that they are saying. In that way you will be knowledgeable, and knowledge could bring you confidence.
In conclusion it is hard to start being confident, but it is possible!

April 20, 2018, 01:15:03 AM
Reply #7


I think its a matter of confidence and self enhancement. There are people that are shy naturally but they are successful in relationship. Other people that have some social issues just needs self confidence and a little boost on how to work with their social life.

April 22, 2018, 02:22:49 AM
Reply #8

Patrick Y

There's nothing wrong about being shy.  Shy guys are cute actually. A shy guys should be coupled to a loud girl so it will be balanced but it depends really on the personality and how you will accept each others flaws.

Yeah, I've even noticed that with friendships among guys (non-sexual) that shy guys seem happier around talkative ones.  However, though, a pair of two shy will be boring and two talkative might lead to a fight, LOL.  OK, what do you all think?

May 16, 2018, 03:09:53 AM
Reply #9


Shyness possibly comes from a feeling of being ugly. However, though, beauty, for the most part, is in the beholder.  But anyway, people usually go by what society says, and not the truth of the matter!

July 28, 2018, 10:30:58 AM
Reply #10


communicate to the people around you, jam with them without until you notice that your not shy anymore.it takes time to do this.