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Shoul I contact her?

Should I contact her ?
6 (60%)
Wait till she contacts me ?
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Author Topic: Should I contact her? Or wait for her to contact me!

January 14, 2019, 07:48:47 PM
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Naples1276


So I met this girl a few months ago. We hit it off straight away, spent loads of time together and everything was going really well. She was going to LA in the new year for a month to get away and recharge. Obviously this was fine, we spoke about how amazing it was for her  and about how we could continue and do loads of fun things when she gets back.

So the thing is she was dealing with some personal problems. Relating to old relationships. She also had a few very stressful work weeks were she was working 20 days straight. Around this time I could feel her slightly pulling away and getting a bit distant. The  night before she went to LA, and me back home for Xmas. We went out, I could feel her being distant and distracted, and she apologizes said she had a lot to deal with but was trying. The night went on and we parted ways in a really positive and loving way. The next she txt me wishing me a safe trip.

So that was the last I heard from her. I sent a message on Christmas Day, just wishing her merry Xmas. A few days after that she posted a long message on social media talking about what she’d gone through this year, so again I just sent a nice positive message of support. But I never receive a response from either. I know that she needed to disconnect, and figure her stuff out. I also know that she like me, so maybe the emotion of both just got too much.

I’ve haven’t sent any messages or been in contact, and have just got on with life over the past few weeks. About 10 days ago she did like a pic I posted of myself on Insta (she’s actually never like any posted before. but I know not to read to much into that) Anyway I feel we’re in stalemate, following each other on Instagram I can see she is getting back to her strong fun self. She’ll be back in 10 days, and I was wondering if I should just txt her saying what’s up, how are you etc, or should I just leave it and let her contact me. ( knowing her I m also worried she may think that I m pissed off because she ghosted me, but I get life’s tough sometimes and don’t hold it against her)

Sorry for the essay

What do you guys reckon?

Thanks

January 14, 2019, 08:01:02 PM
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missg


So I met this girl a few months ago. We hit it off straight away, spent loads of time together and everything was going really well. She was going to LA in the new year for a month to get away and recharge. Obviously this was fine, we spoke about how amazing it was for her  and about how we could continue and do loads of fun things when she gets back.

So the thing is she was dealing with some personal problems. Relating to old relationships. She also had a few very stressful work weeks were she was working 20 days straight. Around this time I could feel her slightly pulling away and getting a bit distant. The  night before she went to LA, and me back home for Xmas. We went out, I could feel her being distant and distracted, and she apologizes said she had a lot to deal with but was trying. The night went on and we parted ways in a really positive and loving way. The next she txt me wishing me a safe trip.

So that was the last I heard from her. I sent a message on Christmas Day, just wishing her merry Xmas. A few days after that she posted a long message on social media talking about what she’d gone through this year, so again I just sent a nice positive message of support. But I never receive a response from either. I know that she needed to disconnect, and figure her stuff out. I also know that she like me, so maybe the emotion of both just got too much.

I’ve haven’t sent any messages or been in contact, and have just got on with life over the past few weeks. About 10 days ago she did like a pic I posted of myself on Insta (she’s actually never like any posted before. but I know not to read to much into that) Anyway I feel we’re in stalemate, following each other on Instagram I can see she is getting back to her strong fun self. She’ll be back in 10 days, and I was wondering if I should just txt her saying what’s up, how are you etc, or should I just leave it and let her contact me. ( knowing her I m also worried she may think that I m pissed off because she ghosted me, but I get life’s tough sometimes and don’t hold it against her)

Sorry for the essay

What do you guys reckon?

Thanks

20 days straight! bloody hell (mind my language!), I can barely do 5 days straight lol.

I wouldn't contact her, it sounds like she's in a rough place right now and you don't want to give off a desperate/annoying vibe.

She knows that you have been trying to contact her - I'd wait a little longer. @Naples1276

January 14, 2019, 08:08:30 PM
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Naples1276


That’s what I thought. But as mention I have a feeling she may also be wondering if I m angry or purposely not contacting her because she ghosted me. If I ghosted someone I’d be nervous about reconnecting or if they where still interested at all!

I’m worried that if I leave it to long, the hole thing could fizzle out.

But like you said I don’t want to contact her to soon ...

Thanks @missg
« Last Edit: January 14, 2019, 08:10:41 PM by Naples1276 »

January 14, 2019, 10:05:51 PM
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missg


That’s what I thought. But as mention I have a feeling she may also be wondering if I m angry or purposely not contacting her because she ghosted me. If I ghosted someone I’d be nervous about reconnecting or if they where still interested at all!

I’m worried that if I leave it to long, the hole thing could fizzle out.

But like you said I don’t want to contact her to soon ...

Thanks @missg

If you think it's right, it may be worth sending her one last message saying that you know she's going through a difficult time etc and that you're always here if you need a chat.

Then leave it at that and wait for her to come to you? If she doesnt then at least you know she isn't interested?

January 19, 2019, 07:42:14 PM
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Kobe1kylie2


Hey theres no harm in just texting her wondering how shes been.

May 05, 2019, 02:18:23 PM
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Boban


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August 12, 2019, 05:51:11 PM
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PaintedGray


I would send her a message, put the ball in her court, and leave it at that.

 

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