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November 23, 2018, 04:48:22 PM
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Kylian8675


This might be a bit long. We have been very very good friends for like almost 3 years. I'm 17, she's a year junior to me. We met in our school bus. I was a bit shy when I first met her in 2016 but not now much. We meet 2-4 times a week. When we first started talking she once indirectly confessed about her love for me but I avoided that. However now I find us being very good friends. Sometimes we both call ourselves bestfriends. Ik she loves me tho.

Lemme tell you a bit about her. She was in my school. She had a bit of a slu*ty type reputation in school. She has only dated once very long back in 2015. But I know her very well, she's a very good person and trustworthy.

However there are some things which bugs me very often. For example, even tho she talks to me all the time, she also has some other male friends which are close but they stick about a month I guess.
Like in September she used to talk to a guy who lives close to us, they haven't ever seen each other but he called her to meet after 2-3 weeks of talking. I was a bit insecure, we had a big fight how but its cool now. She asked me if I should go or not, I said don't go due to his repu. She told me she'd consider my opinion but she met him. Now she doesn't meet him anymore after this.
And in October there was another guy she was talking to, nowadays he is avoiding her.
And this month, there's this another new guy. The things which bugs me the most is that she's ready to meet a guy even tho they have only chatted for like a week or two. And she doesn't know them w no mutual friends in b/w.

She cancels any plans if she wants to meet me. But I don't trust her sometimes maybe because of my insecurities. I wanted to know if she'd be loyal to me if we ever dated.

She is close to many guys which is ideally uncommon for a girl who loves someone else. Is it something like she's trying other boys just incase she finds someone better or if not, then just stick w me. And she also entertains strangers(Mutual friends) on Instagram DMs. She also craves for popularity sometimes.

Please Help. I need to sort this out ASAP.
Any advice is highy appreciated.
When she confessed or hinted, I wasn't ready for a relationship. One thing that bothers me is how she can meet strangers when they've only been chatting for a week or 10 days max. Please also note that India is a bit conservative and girls usually say no to meet any boy 60% of the time.

December 13, 2018, 02:53:38 PM
Reply #1

NoviceNinja


Have you ever thought that maybe the reason why she's trying to meet all these guys even though they've only talked for a few weeks is to make you jealous? Do you like her? I think you do. Because if not, you won't be posting this thread. Man up my friend, and be her boyfriend. You'll not know for sure if she's good for you if you wouldn't try. All the best!

December 13, 2018, 07:43:09 PM
Reply #2

danmike25


In dealing with girls, especially when you are really very close to another, you need to be open to multiple possibilities. There's a possibility that she just simply wants or treats you as a best friend or sees you as a "brother."  Another bigger possibility is she likes you, but she doesn't want to make any move, because she probably wants you to have the realization that no matter how she tries to find affection in other guys, you are still that someone she really wants to see herself ending up with.  That's probably the reason why she makes some moves to make you feel jealous. All I'm saying is possibilities could be anything, just be open to it. Start from there, take one step at a time.

December 14, 2018, 09:15:24 AM
Reply #3

menchuuy58


This might be a bit long. We have been very very good friends for like almost 3 years. I'm 17, she's a year junior to me. We met in our school bus. I was a bit shy when I first met her in 2016 but not now much. We meet 2-4 times a week. When we first started talking she once indirectly confessed about her love for me but I avoided that. However now I find us being very good friends. Sometimes we both call ourselves bestfriends. Ik she loves me tho.

Lemme tell you a bit about her. She was in my school. She had a bit of a slu*ty type reputation in school. She has only dated once very long back in 2015. But I know her very well, she's a very good person and trustworthy.

However there are some things which bugs me very often. For example, even tho she talks to me all the time, she also has some other male friends which are close but they stick about a month I guess.
Like in September she used to talk to a guy who lives close to us, they haven't ever seen each other but he called her to meet after 2-3 weeks of talking. I was a bit insecure, we had a big fight how but its cool now. She asked me if I should go or not, I said don't go due to his repu. She told me she'd consider my opinion but she met him. Now she doesn't meet him anymore after this.
And in October there was another guy she was talking to, nowadays he is avoiding her.
And this month, there's this another new guy. The things which bugs me the most is that she's ready to meet a guy even tho they have only chatted for like a week or two. And she doesn't know them w no mutual friends in b/w.

She cancels any plans if she wants to meet me. But I don't trust her sometimes maybe because of my insecurities. I wanted to know if she'd be loyal to me if we ever dated.

She is close to many guys which is ideally uncommon for a girl who loves someone else. Is it something like she's trying other boys just incase she finds someone better or if not, then just stick w me. And she also entertains strangers(Mutual friends) on Instagram DMs. She also craves for popularity sometimes.

Please Help. I need to sort this out ASAP.
Any advice is highy appreciated.
When she confessed or hinted, I wasn't ready for a relationship. One thing that bothers me is how she can meet strangers when they've only been chatting for a week or 10 days max. Please also note that India is a bit conservative and girls usually say no to meet any boy 60% of the time.
You are right. It is indeed confusing. But to end all of those confusion, I think you need to tell her everything about your feeling for her. She also needs to confers to you. I think honesty about your feelings for one another can erase all confusions.

 

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