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Author Topic: Sent an apology to the girl I cut contact with five years ago.

August 28, 2019, 12:48:58 PM
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Occitanie


A few weeks back I got back in touch, for the first time in five years, the girl I cut contact without any explanation whatsoever. We were never officially together, instead we had a sort of fling that lasted five years.

So I got in touch without thinking she would respond at all, or at the very least, she would tell me to kindly f*** off.

She responded, and she had a lot of things to say:

- She told me that all the hurt and pain had come back when I got in touch.

- That what I put her through badly affected her and still does.

- That she’s had issues with her relationships and that she’s never quite felt the same again.

- That she thought I hated her.

However she also told me this “I like the idea of us trying something together but I’m afraid of the result”



A week ago I sent her the apology:

(Her name), I'm really sorry to have cut you off in such a way, without explanation, and not being fair and honest to you. I behaved like a coward and an egoist. My behavior towards you was appalling and insensitive. I always doubted your feelings, and at the time, I thought it was the best way for me. I am sorry for all the pain and the hurt that I inflicted on you during all these years of questions and distress. During all these years I thought only of you, the morning when I woke up, throughout the day, the evening you are in my thoughts, in my heart. I do not know what you think and feel. (Her name) whatever happens know that I only wish you happiness in your life.


I was a real sack of **** to her. I was selfish and didn’t once think about how cutting her off so abruptly would affect her.

September 03, 2019, 02:54:03 AM
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Occitanie


Bump.

Has anyone got some advice on my situation.

I need some brutal honesty please.

September 03, 2019, 05:03:05 AM
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GP1984


Do you want to get back with her? Im guessing you do since you got back in touch after 5 years.
You have done right in apologising although it is very very late ha. At least it shows you do care and have matured.

She is 100% going to have doubts with what you did if you cut contact abruptly in the past. She is going to expect you may do this again. You will need to re-assure her that you will never do it again if you want to make it work. You need to be serious about it or you will hurt her again.

Its all down to what you want in the end. Do you want to make it work or is it just going to end badly returning after 5 years?

September 03, 2019, 05:41:53 AM
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Occitanie


Thanks for the reply GP,

I don’t think it’s just down to me, I think it also depends on whether she wants to try it(?)

I’m totally serious about wanting to be back with her, at her rhythm, carefully and slowly getting to know eachother again, and, most importantly, gaining her trust and showing her that she can trust me.

She hasn’t responded to my apology... she’s read it though.

She has responded to all my other messages, and I was half expecting her to reply to my apology in some way: either telling me to kindly get lost, or something else.

I don’t know what to think of that.

 

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