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Author Topic: Please help me out I am really depressed

April 02, 2019, 08:52:05 AM
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I had a friend(female) she was a really close one...she used to come and talk to me wherever I am..at the beginning I kinda thought It was annoying and I tried to ignore her but then she kept doing it and I started liking her as a friend....we know each other for like 2 to 3 months and I really liked her has a friend cuz her personality is exactly opposite to mine, she was very lively and she talks with everyone...I considered her has a really close friend and she used to share some of her problem with me...recently her roomate told her that I used to have a crush on her(which was true but it was really really minor) after I got to knw abt this I confronted her and told her face to face that what I had towards her was really really a minor thing and it got over within a few days and that' to I had this feeling for her many months ago when I dint clearly knew her properly...I knew the conversation was awkward but I had to clear it out cuz I really valued our friendship and I don't want her to think that I broke her trust. The prob now is that ryt after this hapoened it's been like one week now and she stopped talking to me like before, it's just hi and bye now...and that to I have to forcebly make an eye contact so I asked one of my friends to ask her whether everything is alright and she told that she is chill with it and she stopped talking to me after all this liking thing. I have never let her know that I liked her nor have acted anyway indecent with her but its very depressing when she is like this now...my friends said not to go talk abt this to her cuz it will only make things worse or it wouldn't improve things at all...I just want everything back to being  normal, i dint want our friendship to end this way and I really don't know what I am supposed to do?I am really depressed ryt now cuz she goes and talks to my friends and ignores me which makes me sad at cuz she was never like that to me. If someone could help me by giving me an advice it would be really helpful 
Thankyou


April 05, 2019, 07:27:11 AM
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crikey


I'm probably not the best person to give any relationship advice, especially since one of my friends is now not talking to me as well, but I know how hard it must be for you right now.

I think the best choice you have right now is to talk to her, you're not getting anything from her friends and your friends are just saying to drop it, but that won't help with the situation. It's possible that you might've sent the wrong message when you brought up what her roommate told her about you. You didn't say a whole lot about your relationship but maybe it's possible she might've had feelings for you, if she always came to talk to you all the time.

Bottom line is to send a message or something to meet in person and talk about what's going on, don't make her feel pressured to do it. Number one thing in any kind of relationship is open and honest communication, even if it's uncomfortable, even if you don't want to. Hopefully everything goes well and you're able to repair your relationship, I know how that feels.

April 20, 2019, 04:15:35 PM
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Archie Anonymous


Do you think she has a crush on you? If she does, it could be that she just needs some space for a while, after being told you just like her as a friend. Give her some time. If she purposely is unkind and ignores you on every occasion, I would consider that to be pretty immature and not worth my time, especially if you've not wronged her.

I'm in a similar situation. I have feelings for this girl, but something happened between us, and my gut told me to just remain friends with her. I've barely seen her this past week. The difference is, when I have seen her, she's been friendly with me. She's just kept our interactions short, which I can understand if she's heartbroken because of me.

So, in short: give her a little more time. If she continues this unkind behavior of ignoring you, I say move on and don't waste your time worrying about it.

May 01, 2019, 11:20:30 PM
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Waxpoetic


I wish I could be of more help than to say something other than I sympathize with what you're going through

May 03, 2019, 09:51:19 AM
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W_Amadeus_M


Hey!

She might need some space, especially if she really had a crush.
My advice would hide Your ego (it's hurting now). Just act as You would if everything was as before.
Invite her to hang out, ask how she is doing. Act if she is, Your little sister and if asked say this as well.

Good luck!

Best regards,
W.A.M.

 

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