Hello sir, here are my two cents on the situation you are in First of all, I understand what you are going through when you say you can't sleep at night. When a man loves a woman, there is no force in the world that can destroy that feeling. And a man will literally give the world to her, and more. I do feel sorry for the man that hasn't felt this way about a woman before. Having said that, I will still tell you why you are downward spirralling yourself right now, and what to do about it.In my line of work (I am an online men's dating coach...) I always tell my clients to watch what people DO and not what they SAY! And this is especially true with women. This is what is happening in your situation: - FACT: You are giving her gifts all the time. EXPLANATION: She is kinda girly and enjoys it, and it is not something I can't afford.- FACT: When her attention is not focused on you, you are experiencing difficulty sleeping, breathing and you feel at unease.- FACT: The intensity of the interaction on her side has gone down, and she shows no admiration for you. EXPLANATION: She still SAYS the gifts mean the world to her.- FACT: You feel you are not in her league.- FACT: You think she looks at you like a little boy trying his best.Now you might not like what I am going to say to you, but it's important in order to get you OUT of this situation, and into an abundant life with women. You are seeking validation for your self-worth from her, this is the biggest mistake you are making. If she intensely texts you throughout the day, or tells you how awesome you are, you feel good. But if this does not happen your entire world crushes down, and your daily life is compromised. If this continues you will lose her for sure, because she will not be attracted to a man that seeks validation from her attention, and is not prepared to lose her.It's not a bad thing if you like giving her gifts, there is nothing wrong with that. BUT coming from what you are feeling, you are basically buying her attention with your gifts. She is earning a decent amount of money, she comes from a well-situated background and she keeps on taking everything you are buying for her. She SAYS it means the world to her, but what she DOES is she looks at you as a provider and not a man that can shake up the ground beneath her feet.You say you feel she is out of your league. Again, this brings me back to what I told you about seeking validation from her. Realize that it has NOTHING to do with her, she simply responds to the type of man you are being. You think she looks at you like a little boy trying his best, again because that is probably what you are doing, and why things are not working for you right now.HERE IS WHAT TO DO:- Get this sentence in your head: "THE MOMENT YOU ARE NOT READY TO LOSE A GIRL FOREVER, IS THE MOMENT YOU'VE LOST ALL ATTRACTION FROM HER!"You mentioned "The big alpha guy...". You don't need to become whatever a big alpha guy means to you. An alpha man is an everyday man that accepts himself, and unapologetically presents himself in the face of others (men and women). It doesn't matter if he is tall, short, handsome, ugly, bald, rich, poor or whatever. He is unapologetic about who he is and acts from that place. Stop looking for validation from her and accept that she is free to leave you whenever she pleases. When you get this realization in your head, start acting on it. Your sleep will improve, your everyday life will improve and you will get an ABUNDANCE of women.- STOP BUYING HER GIFTS, EVEN IF SHE LEAVESNow I am not saying don't pay for dinner or don't tell her to split the petrol or something like that, but stop buying her attention with treatments and presents. Remember what we said about the talking versus the doing... She SAYS it means the world to her, but in reality she doesn't respect you as a MAN. That is why you feel like a little boy trying his hardest. But she will leave you might say... Well let me ask you this, if she sees you as a little boy she can have at any time she pleases and not respect you as a man. Than, did you ever REALLY HAVE HER?Dear Sir, it is not that she is out of your league...It is just that you are not respecting and accepting yourself as the awesome man you are.You do not need to "Become a big alpha...", you just need to be unapologetic about your true nature. This way, you will have women DRAWN to you without much effort on your part. Coming from a guy that used to be where you are at This is my advice for your current situation, if you need more help feel free to contact me.Salute,Kalin
Hello Kalin,I want to thank you for taking the time to give such a well-thought-out response. I think you have hit the nail on the head, and I think that in some way I already knew it. I need to enjoy interacting with her, but not constantly wait for more and more validation. I know I am worthy of her, and she has said it enough times herself that she sees it too.The one thing where I disagree is regarding the gifts. That's just part of our "thing" and I enjoy it as much as she does. But I will try to see them truly as gifts and not as a way of getting her attention or respect. Thank you again!Quote from: Kalin B. on October 29, 2019, 11:11:59 AMHello sir, here are my two cents on the situation you are in First of all, I understand what you are going through when you say you can't sleep at night. When a man loves a woman, there is no force in the world that can destroy that feeling. And a man will literally give the world to her, and more. I do feel sorry for the man that hasn't felt this way about a woman before. Having said that, I will still tell you why you are downward spirralling yourself right now, and what to do about it.In my line of work (I am an online men's dating coach...) I always tell my clients to watch what people DO and not what they SAY! And this is especially true with women. This is what is happening in your situation: - FACT: You are giving her gifts all the time. EXPLANATION: She is kinda girly and enjoys it, and it is not something I can't afford.- FACT: When her attention is not focused on you, you are experiencing difficulty sleeping, breathing and you feel at unease.- FACT: The intensity of the interaction on her side has gone down, and she shows no admiration for you. EXPLANATION: She still SAYS the gifts mean the world to her.- FACT: You feel you are not in her league.- FACT: You think she looks at you like a little boy trying his best.Now you might not like what I am going to say to you, but it's important in order to get you OUT of this situation, and into an abundant life with women. You are seeking validation for your self-worth from her, this is the biggest mistake you are making. If she intensely texts you throughout the day, or tells you how awesome you are, you feel good. But if this does not happen your entire world crushes down, and your daily life is compromised. If this continues you will lose her for sure, because she will not be attracted to a man that seeks validation from her attention, and is not prepared to lose her.It's not a bad thing if you like giving her gifts, there is nothing wrong with that. BUT coming from what you are feeling, you are basically buying her attention with your gifts. She is earning a decent amount of money, she comes from a well-situated background and she keeps on taking everything you are buying for her. She SAYS it means the world to her, but what she DOES is she looks at you as a provider and not a man that can shake up the ground beneath her feet.You say you feel she is out of your league. Again, this brings me back to what I told you about seeking validation from her. Realize that it has NOTHING to do with her, she simply responds to the type of man you are being. You think she looks at you like a little boy trying his best, again because that is probably what you are doing, and why things are not working for you right now.HERE IS WHAT TO DO:- Get this sentence in your head: "THE MOMENT YOU ARE NOT READY TO LOSE A GIRL FOREVER, IS THE MOMENT YOU'VE LOST ALL ATTRACTION FROM HER!"You mentioned "The big alpha guy...". You don't need to become whatever a big alpha guy means to you. An alpha man is an everyday man that accepts himself, and unapologetically presents himself in the face of others (men and women). It doesn't matter if he is tall, short, handsome, ugly, bald, rich, poor or whatever. He is unapologetic about who he is and acts from that place. Stop looking for validation from her and accept that she is free to leave you whenever she pleases. When you get this realization in your head, start acting on it. Your sleep will improve, your everyday life will improve and you will get an ABUNDANCE of women.- STOP BUYING HER GIFTS, EVEN IF SHE LEAVESNow I am not saying don't pay for dinner or don't tell her to split the petrol or something like that, but stop buying her attention with treatments and presents. Remember what we said about the talking versus the doing... She SAYS it means the world to her, but in reality she doesn't respect you as a MAN. That is why you feel like a little boy trying his hardest. But she will leave you might say... Well let me ask you this, if she sees you as a little boy she can have at any time she pleases and not respect you as a man. Than, did you ever REALLY HAVE HER?Dear Sir, it is not that she is out of your league...It is just that you are not respecting and accepting yourself as the awesome man you are.You do not need to "Become a big alpha...", you just need to be unapologetic about your true nature. This way, you will have women DRAWN to you without much effort on your part. Coming from a guy that used to be where you are at This is my advice for your current situation, if you need more help feel free to contact me.Salute,Kalin
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