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Author Topic: Not sure where my relationship is going

November 19, 2019, 07:26:06 PM
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Valinor


I met a wonderful girl and we've been together for a while ... but the longer we've been together the more I realize I'm not happy.  She's gained some weight and is not as active as she was in the beginning of the relationship.  We're not as intimate as we once were, and a lot of that if my decision.  On paper we are great together, but sometimes I'm not sure if she's the one for me or not.  I want her to be.  I want us to be happy together and madly in love ... but it doesn't seem to be happening.  I'm open to seeing a psychologist together, to see if its something we can work through.  I'm just really surprised we're not where I thought we'd be by now.  I love her, but sometimes I wonder if that will last, on both side.  She's very dependent and I'm very independent.  She's very loving and emotional, and I'm less loving and emotional.  Sometimes I feel like we're on opposite ends of the spectrum.  Other times I feel lucky that we are together.  It can be wonderful and then tough.

November 26, 2019, 10:12:02 AM
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Reindeer


I just got out of a relationship, I think we have little things in common, he thinks we are just in different stage of life.. I thought about us over and over, in the end I just realized if this person can’t make you happy, what’s the point to stay? I just couldn’t give up my life on him... also when we were together in the beginning, he worked hard, then he just did nothing in life. After breakup he sold all the game consoles and started to do exercises. I am happy to see he finally stepped out of his comfort zone to become a better person. And all this won’t be happening if I didn’t leave. Of course, I become a better person too, at least happier to be on my own without feeling bad for him.

April 21, 2020, 11:04:20 AM
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jewel


If you really think she is wonderful, and you love her. Please end the relationship, I am sure if she is loving and emotional, she can pick up on your feelings of unhappiness and in turn is also not happy. Set her free, let her know you think she is an amazing girl, however, not your type (Becasue this is what it sounds like the real issue is).

You do not need therapy, she is simply not your type. It is ok to have a type. You having a type does not mean that she is a bad person, it only means that you need to go be with your type. So please do her a favor and do that. You probably got together because you had a few good moments, and the darn sexual attraction that gets people all the time. However, not everyone you can share a laugh with, and also makes you feel horny is someone to be in a relationship with.

If she has a break down and needs to stay away from you for a while(or forever) let her do that. One day she will understand when she is happily married to someone who does find her to be their type, she will laugh about it and not care at all.

Cheers,
I enjoy writing/discussing love&relationship topics with all ages. Love finding the humor in all aspects of life, good and bad ;)

 

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