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Author Topic: Not sure what to do

May 31, 2019, 04:35:21 AM
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Sith4orlife


Hi so first time posting but really looking for some advice on what could be the Issue here, me and my wife have been together for going on 3 years now and our sex life though it’s enjoyable it’s never really met up to my standards of the variety and adventurousness I like/need. Though that is an issue I’ve been able to mostly move past that because I am willing to accept that she just isn’t capable of wanting sex the same way and on the same level as me, however the major issue I’m
Having is in her entire sexual desire, like she doesent have any personal sexual desires or wants, Ive asked and talked with her multiple times to no avail she just says she doesent know, also she NEVER engages sex it is always me and though it is enjoyable as I said it’s repetitive and boring some times, it’s hard to feel wanted when it’s always me having to come for her and she never takes the initiative to do things herself such as just trying to be sexy for me even though I’ve told her many times I want her to, im down to try any and everything with her but she just doesent ever take advatange of that, what can I do about this

May 31, 2019, 04:44:43 PM
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Steve94


Hi! First things first, does she understand how you feel? If she doesn't, you must do something to understand it. If she understands it, then you should visit an expert in order to help you. But before that, you can be uninterested to see how she'll react. In my personal opinion, you should check if she doesn't have a lover to fulfill her. The last tip I can give you but I'm totally against that, is that both of you should get laid with other persons in order to reset your desires. As I told you, I'm against that, but it might works. Good luck!

June 13, 2019, 07:13:48 PM
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liveandletliveta


From my experience woman who have not had alot of sexual partners tend to be much more vanilla and safe. This is something that needs alot of communication and time, tell her you want to explore more.

June 17, 2019, 02:15:08 AM
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trangilbert3


Was she always not as adventurous as you or was it different at the beginning of the marriage (like was she a lot more sexual at the beginning compared to now)?

June 17, 2019, 06:16:13 PM
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jorge


You have to be frank with her and tell this in a nice way. Honesty and open communication are the keys in all successful relationships.