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Author Topic: Need to choose: Ex Wife > Current Girlfriend?

November 29, 2019, 06:10:21 PM
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AndyAlone


I am in a very messy situation at the moment and feel very alone as well as stressed out. I am about to lose my wife of a decade and current girlfriend of a few years, both with whom I have children – I need to choose who I stay with.

My wife of 10+ years is an excellent mother and has always been loyal to me, never cheated, always supported my career, and stood by me through numerous instances of infidelity. However, I left her a few years ago for my current girlfriend, who, on the surface, has all of the qualities that I desire in a woman/partner (sexy, career-oriented, clean/organized, etc.).

Despite filing for divorce from my wife of 10+ years and having a child with my current girlfriend, my wife and I have been having a secret affair throughout most of the time I have been with my current girlfriend. To be candid, our sex is better now than when we were married.

I love each woman for different qualities which exist independent of each other. They are both very different women. However, I am now at a point where I am about to lose both of them, and I do not know who to pick.

My current girlfriend has been pressuring me to get divorced for years which I have put off because I don’t want to lose my wife and see her run off with another man meanwhile my wife is ready to pull the trigger on our divorce and be done with me once and for all unless I leave the “mistress”.

I don’t know what to do. I don’t know who to pick. One moment I want to be with my wife and the next I want to be with my girlfriend.

Help!

December 09, 2019, 03:29:46 PM
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AndyAlone


Anyone have any thoughts or advice here? I could really use the help...

December 10, 2019, 03:20:06 PM
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Deadlift88


Your inconsiderate and you dont deserve either woman. Make a choice and stick with one. I hope it happens to you one day.

December 11, 2019, 10:53:37 PM
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mrt58


Been in a similar situation in the past, the answer is neither, both lack something you want to make you need the other. The best advice I can give is to take a step back from both and take a look inside yourself, maybe even seek some professional help to find the reason you can't decide which way to go, but be prepared to confront some personal issues that may be uncomfortable to deal with.

February 02, 2020, 10:58:06 AM
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Alfie Jackson


i think you shouldn't be with either of them to be honest mate, if you truly loved either one of them you wouldn't have cheated, ive cheated on people i thought id loved in the past and it made me feel like s@=t but i still did it, then when i met someone that i truly loved the thought never entered my head for the 10 years we were together, if somethings missing in your relationship work harder at it or split up dont cheat 

 

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