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December 09, 2019, 02:33:01 PM
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Darkfire225


hey all.. I need some advice I work as a night security guard doing around 52 hours a week. I earn all the income for the house and my gf doesn't work. She hasn't worked for more than a year now. Her father pays all her bills (which are credit cards and catalogues) for her, So she has no reason to geta job.

its upsetting for me as I go out in all weather earning money to pay for the rent, food and just about everything so she can sit at home and watch TV. Though I love and its hard for me to leave her. I need your advice on what to do plz

December 09, 2019, 02:57:48 PM
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Captain Black


A strange situation. Short term it wouldn't worry me unless she became a burden financially. The fact that she has a source of income without having to work could be a plus as you have somebody at home looking after the house. 
If she starts becoming a financial burden then that is the time you need to encourage her to go out and work.
« Last Edit: December 09, 2019, 02:59:42 PM by Captain Black »

December 13, 2019, 08:28:58 PM
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tapmadi121


difficult to advise depends on how you got into the relationship and what your expectations were. I think it would be better for you to ask her now because the longer you leave it this one only faster and create resentment and ultimately it may cause you to to have problems in your relationship later on down the line. just ask her in a polite way in a nice way without having to cause an argument.

something about the lines of lesson I think it's important we have an open discussion and I'm sure if you you have something on your mind you'd want to mention it and I have something on my mind I want to share with you so that it doesn't cause problems in the future. I'm working really hard at the moment to financially support us if if perhaps you know you could go to work and find something you enjoy it would help us both and take the pressure off me a little bit perhaps we can save for something for the future etc.

December 14, 2019, 08:22:16 AM
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Azaroth


A strange situation. Short term it wouldn't worry me unless she became a burden financially. The fact that she has a source of income without having to work could be a plus as you have somebody at home looking after the house. 
If she starts becoming a financial burden then that is the time you need to encourage her to go out and work.

+1.
If she has an interest/hobby that she wants to take it up as job. She should definitely do it and I am pretty sure you are encouraging her to do as well. If at all she doesnt understand your current situation you both should really need to sit down and have a talk about how you guys want to manage things from here onwards.

December 16, 2019, 09:08:33 AM
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Zugaard


I agree with Captain Black. As long as you have your own money to care for yourself, then there is no need to worry where she gets her money from.

December 17, 2019, 12:37:31 PM
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Anonguy4Advice


I think it depends on what you expect out of her, personally I wouldn't be with someone that had no ambition to work or lived off someone else.

 

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