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Author Topic: Need advice on how to approach a girl about not getting serious for now

July 24, 2019, 03:47:13 PM
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Archie Anonymous


There is a girl that is interested in me, and I in her. We've been crazy about each other lately, but unfortunately the circumstances are not in our favor. Here is what's going on:
  • 1. We live an hour away from each other.
  • 2. She lives with her ex boyfriend for the next year (she signed a lease with him as a roommate, then she decided to date him, then she broke up with him only a few weeks after moving in).
  • 3. Her ex boyfriend hates me (he thinks she broke up with him for me), won't allow me in their apartment, and constantly pesters her about me.
  • 4. I am still dependent on my parents right now (I'm fresh out of college and job hunting), and my mom is not a fan of this girl and my dad thinks I should not get into a serious relationship right now with anyone.
So as you can see, this is quite a messy situation. I hate that we have to tiptoe around to see each other. I don't want to let go, but I feel like it is best if we do for now. I feel that I need to have a conversation with her about this, but I am just not sure what to say or how I should say it. Advice would be greatly appreciated.
 

July 24, 2019, 08:06:24 PM
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Why would you care what your Mum, Dad or least of all her room mate thinks? If you fancy her and she is up for it, why not? Why would you be trying to determine if a relationship is serious or not before it starts? No relationship is 'serious' until it is. It may just be a shag (with protection obviously), who cares? Live your life freely whilst you are young and you can mate. You will have plenty of time for thinking about serious relationships before you know it, I assure you. 

December 07, 2019, 06:14:42 PM
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Writermom82


I think you both need to sit down and discuss your thoughts on the matter, hopes and fears.

But remember, breaking up means possibly finding someone new. So if you cann't bear to never see her again, might not be wise to risk it.

 

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