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Author Topic: My wife is not happy with our marriage anymore. What should I do?

September 07, 2018, 09:34:29 AM
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blueboltSD


I have been married to my wife for almost ten years now. We had quite a smooth start as we were dating up until at the early stage of our marriage. However, as time went by, it seems like she is losing interest in me. It seems like she is not happy with our marriage anymore. It feels like loving me is now a burden for her; I feel like I am already a burden to her. I tried all the tips I read online, most especially from that of an international marriage agency, but it seems like she’s about to give up on our marriage and I cannot change that in her. She has not said anything about it though but that is what I feel. What should I do?

September 07, 2018, 02:45:32 PM
Reply #1

goodevening


I have been married to my wife for almost ten years now. We had quite a smooth start as we were dating up until at the early stage of our marriage. However, as time went by, it seems like she is losing interest in me. It seems like she is not happy with our marriage anymore. It feels like loving me is now a burden for her; I feel like I am already a burden to her. I tried all the tips I read online, most especially from that of an international marriage agency, but it seems like she’s about to give up on our marriage and I cannot change that in her. She has not said anything about it though but that is what I feel. What should I do?

Sorry to hear that you're having concerns in your marriage @blueboltSD.

I think you need to provide more advice in terms of what you said regarding that she's losing interest in you.

What makes you believe this?

Naturally, over time, especially when you're married, it's normal for you both to not love each other as much as you once did. It's really sad but it's part of what happens in a normal, healthy relationship. The spark isn't as it used to be.

It may be that you're looking into the issue to much, unless you have viable reasons to why she may be losing interest?




November 09, 2018, 03:09:13 PM
Reply #2

Cdawg20118


Sorry to hear that but maybe u should ask her whats not making her happy its all about communication good luck

November 09, 2018, 03:10:41 PM
Reply #3

Cdawg20118


How can I tell my wife she has a big fuppa without hurting her feelings I love her dearly

November 16, 2018, 05:48:58 PM
Reply #4

magnolia3002


Hello there,

Sorry to hear you're in this situation.

I strongly believe there is something missing that you're not seeing. Maybe she's pointed it out over time and you just don't pick up on what she's trying to tell you. Communication is key here. I think you should just ask her what it is and work on whatever that is.

Good luck

November 18, 2018, 01:30:26 PM
Reply #5

Gypsum


Try to reinvent yourself. Maybe go shopping for some new clothes, just change up your style a bit. Take your wife out more. Do the things you to did when you first started dating. If that doesn't work, try this out https://tinyurl.com/ydymjsjl

November 18, 2018, 04:58:36 PM
Reply #6

smackie9


From a woman's standpoint she's pulling away because things are in a rut, everything is routine and become boring. You need to refresh by finding new interests/hobbies you both can be passionate about. Show an interest in her romantically, like surprise her with dinner cooked, flowers on the table, or buy her a new dress and take her out dancing. Even the smallest things like giving her a hug and a kiss while she's folding laundry, hold her hand when you are out in public, taking her out for lunch...you know start dating her again, be a couple.

And I agree with the other poster to refresh your look, buy some new clothes, change your look, grow a beard whatever to look trendy but not silly trying to look like you are twenty. Getting into shape helps too. You don't have to buy a gym membership, you can simply start with after dinner walks with her, then later try a short hike on the weekend, then start running.

November 18, 2018, 05:09:23 PM
Reply #7

gwhatdoiknow


I am sorry. You feel it, you know it. Things changed between you two. After ten years together, possibly all relationships and marriages go thru rough patches. All advice given is valid: be tender to her, surprise her with little attentive moments when she is not expecting, a note at her bedside saying simply that she is the woman you want and need. If you have kids and can, perhaps leave the younger ones at the care of someone you trust and go out for dinner or drinks, open the topic of you feeling her distance candidly, no accusations, no hard feelings. She what she would share with you when you are relaxed and focusing on you two only without interruptions. Let her know that she is still - after all these years together - the woman you would choose if you could go back in time. Good luck! Be faithful that open communication, and small steps in the right direction can and will bring back the wife you love.

November 18, 2018, 06:31:19 PM
Reply #8

m98076


Sorry to hear that! Maybe work at better communicating your feelings?

 

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