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Author Topic: My girlfriends ex has asked her to come work with him

February 25, 2020, 06:36:30 PM
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Scott1980


My girlfriend I live with and have been with for a year has recently been contacted by her ex (who was before me) to come work with him in the hospitality industry as her his number 2

She has been honest with me about it and is seriously considering accepting the role because it’s a job she’d love and she’s coming back from depression and thinks it will help her get her spark back

My concern is the ex ! She had an afffair with with him and he left his wife for her but their relationship finished and we got together

But I have a feeling she harbours feelings for him 

Ultimately I’ve told her the decision is hers but in my head if she goes to work with him then I’m out I’m not putting my self through periods of what if .......

Am I wrong ? How would others feel in this situation ?


Any help advice appreciated

February 26, 2020, 12:50:39 PM
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Gumby87


I dont know the full dynamic between them but personally 2 things come to mind here

1. To me, anyone who sleeps with someone in a relationship knowingly looses alot of trust from me as far as relationships go.  If you are willing to sleep woth someone whos married knowingly then its not a large step to cheat on someone. Its a morals thing for me.

2. I would talk to her and let her know it does make you uncomfortable in that situation. Just be honest about your feelings. Dont get worked up or angry, it needs to be a honest discussion. I wouldn't just walk if she takes that job. To me that shows issues of trust already that need to be worked out.  Thats if i ignore the first part anyways.

If you are ready to walk if she takes the job, then talk to her. Worse case it ends anyways.

 

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