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Author Topic: Is this weird or is it just me???

December 04, 2019, 09:59:28 AM
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So I have a female friend that I have been close with for years now.  We have never dated and she currently has a BF but that is not going well.  We spend the holidays together because her BFs family doesn't like her so she is not invited.  It will just be the 2 of us at my apartment for Christmas. 
She tells me that I need to buy a green shirt to wear on Christmas because she is wearing a green outfit.  Is it just me or is that strange?  I understand that couples sometimes dress alike.  Sometimes girls may dress alike, but for friends of the opposite sex to dress alike, when it will just be the 2 of them?  What is your take on this? 

December 05, 2019, 04:09:54 AM
Reply #1

Captain Black

 From what you have posted it sounds to me that your in a good position here but you need to play it cool .

Matching outfits in couples is not unusual. I have a collection of around 50 tailored sports jackets,coats and blazers. So when we go out  I try and compliment my OH but not out dress her. I do take pride in my appearance . So nothing too strange there .

I am not sure on the rationale of green at Christmas though unless she intends wearing an elven type outfit ( I am only joking) .But do go along with her request and wear a green buttoned shirt.

For the day itself just relax and talk   . Perhaps do a bit flirting . If you feel confident if she is wearing all green just ask if she has got green undies on as well. But ask in a very flirty joking manner. But like I said you need to be confident .

If your really into this girl and it sounds that you are then let her make the first move. That's why you need to play it cool and don't force yourself onto her. You need to watch out for body language  signals like playing with the buttons on your shirt . Other signals could be like touching your hand when you talk . I am presuming here you will be both sat together on a sofa. There will also be plenty of eye contact when your talking, so don't shy away.

The other side of the coin is don't expect anything to happen and then you wont be disappointed. She may just want to keep you firmly in the friend zone . Sometimes making a relationship out of a friend is risky because, should the relationship come to an end and lets face most do ( until you find that right person) a friendship could be lost .

So just be yourself and play it cool and see what happens but just be prepared to expect the unexpected.

Good luck

December 05, 2019, 09:08:24 AM
Reply #2


Thanks for the reply Captain Black, you pretty much confirmed what I was thinking.  I think you are correct and giving solid advice.  I have always flirted (it's kind of my nature) but I can defiantly step things up a little and see how it goes.  Guess I have to go shopping for a new shirt now.

December 06, 2019, 04:07:51 AM
Reply #3

Captain Black

No problem mate

I was talking about this scenario with my partner last night as the green theme was puzzling me . Red is normally associated with Christmas .

However my partner reckons she wouldn't rule out an  Elf turning up . She may conceal the costume under a long coat . Apart from a Christmas tree that's the only green association we can think of at Christmas .

So just play it cool and see what turns up !

Good luck mate

December 06, 2019, 09:44:51 AM
Reply #4


I forgot to mention that the color has now changed to burgundy or a dark red.  ::)

December 06, 2019, 06:04:54 PM
Reply #5

Captain Black

Well that's what I thought the colour should be for Christmas.


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