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Author Topic: Is this a no or a yes ?

May 22, 2020, 12:04:57 PM
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Hello Ladies and Gentleman,

I am a new guy here and a little bit desperate. I joined because i need an advice. And sorry for my bad english.

There is a girl i like and we are working in the same company. I like her more with each conversation we have and she calls me a real gentleman and an angel yeah lol kinda weird though, she is a shy type of a girl and i am a shy type of a boy, then i made the first move and asked her if we can go drink some coffee or enjoy an ice cream when the cafes and shops are open again because of the corona virus ? she said yes, we can look if we have the time. And then in the next day she was silent and didnt talked to me and i messaged and asked her if that was because of me, she said she was a little bit overwhelmed because of my invitation. She seemed a little bit nervous too.

Should i ask her again or leave it ? or what should i understand from her actions ?

May 22, 2020, 08:43:05 PM
Reply #1


It is a no for me. Either she has a boyfriend...or...she was just flirting with you.
Honestly her thinking of you as an angel is not good.
Next and stop being so nice...it does not serve you...take it from a 45 year old nice guy.
Good luck

May 23, 2020, 03:53:58 AM
Reply #2


I think about it from a different way, and I’m also a nice guy. You sound young.

It sounds like she needs a bit of a push. Ask he what she is doing this weekend. Offer to go for a walk and get an ice cream or coffee etc.

That way she had a quick exit. And so do you. If she says no then move on bud. Plenty of fish in the sea

May 23, 2020, 06:08:35 PM
Reply #3


@Tony is right, I think the girl needs a little push!!!

At least, she told you how she felt about you asking her out, I guess what you should do is to make her feel comfortable about the whole thing (if she's the shy type). She will like to see you care and want to see her, so how it goes and if it doesn't go anywhere, the world is a big place, a lot of other woman. 
or, @johndoe13 is right, she was just flirting, and there is nothing to do. And then, go for the next girl.
Live. Just live.

May 23, 2020, 06:37:31 PM
Reply #4


It's like normal for the beginning actually hehe this game you know  ;) just act as you feel it but don't forget about personal boundaries