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Author Topic: Is my girlfriend controlling and manipulative. Should I leave??

February 19, 2020, 09:03:02 AM
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So I realize my last post was long so I'm just going to summarize everything and maybe get a response. My gf told me I couldn't get a second job part time because she didnt want to be responsible for my 12 year old girl. She got mad at me for texting a friend at 530 in the morning. She wont show me affection in bed and cuddle with me but yet accuses me of not being affectionate enough. I do everything for this girl but yet I get accused of being lazy and not doing enough. I cook over 90% of the meals, I clean, pay Bill's, do yard work, I helped her out financially through school and supported all her decisions, I uprooted me and my girl to be with her in her home town, when I try to talk to her about something thas bugging me with our relationship she gaslight me, lays guilt trips on me, gets angry with me, which makes me not want to talk to her about anything then she gets mad when I dont talk to her about stuff. We have been to couples therapy and she hasn't listened to anything our therapist has said. She also disagrees with what my psychiatrist and daughters therapist has said. She gets mad when I dont do what she wants me to do or gets mad when I dont agree with her opinion and then guilt trips me by saying well you just dont care what I have to say you would much rather listen to the psychiatrist then me. She thinks she is always right and better then everyone else. She told me this herself. She dosent want kids even though she has a 12 year old and I have a 12 year old. I know for a fact she has made up stuff about me to her family. She wants me to pay for al the medical Bill's including the person Bill's. She wants me to pay for all the upkeep on the house when the house is in her name not mine. She wont take care of herself mentally or physically. She says she dont have money for doctors but yet she is always charging stuff to her credit cards.

Is there any hope for this relationship??

February 19, 2020, 05:56:29 PM
Reply #1


No there isn't. All women are kind of like this woman to some extent in my opinion but she's far too selfish and solipsistic for you to get even the most minor benefit from this relationship. Get rid of her. You deserve better. Easier said than done I understand but it's for the best.

February 20, 2020, 12:15:35 AM
Reply #2


you are doing everything for her and she doesnt appreciate you .Thats so unfair please leave .. walkaway

February 20, 2020, 10:31:14 AM
Reply #3


You are in so called "toxic relationship".
Even i am female i don't agree with even one thing you described she did.
I write one article about this subject, feel free to read about toxic relationships and you will find yourself in 10 of 10 situations https://shinymotivation.com/its-time-for-a-change-motivation-to-leave-a-toxic-relationship/
Sorry, but run away, she don't respect you and life is too precious to waste time on someone who don't deserve it.
Editor on real place for relationships

February 23, 2020, 09:15:38 AM
Reply #4


Thank you all for your responses. Its good to hear that everyone I have talked to, all has told me the same thing. I have since talked to my gf and we have mutually decided to end the relationship before we both end up hating and resenting each other. When we talked I told her that I didnt feel valued, loved, or appreciated and that I felt like I was being taken for granted. She then asked me why so I told her and she had an excuse for everything, she would gaslight me, and push the blame off on me. She took absolutely no responsibility for anything. The only thing she agreed with is that its not working out and we should both walk away.

February 23, 2020, 04:50:05 PM
Reply #5


I think toxic relationships can be difficult to manage but I would definitely consider whether this is something you can do long-term


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