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Author Topic: Is it my fault she led me on?

December 02, 2019, 02:48:10 AM
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Confused L

I need to know if it was my fault that she lead me on. I just need to know if other people would have thought the same as I did. We had been friends for 3 months about a month ago she said a friend said something about me liking her and she told him I didn't look at her in that way I told her I do but you don't look at me in that way and that's ok she then told me that she did look at me in that way. over the next month we texted everyday through out the day and she would text me until like 2:30 in the morning. She would always call me cutie and tell me I made her blush she called me things like sweetums and sweet pea we even talked about her coming to visit me and do romantic things like cuddle and watch movies. When I joked about not having very much experience in being romantic she told me to watch some romantic movies and I joked about her giving me homework and she joked about looking forward to seeing me get an A+. The whole time I believed her and thought we were having a connection. Then she told me she was with someone she never told me she was I knew he liked her but I didn't know she liked him or that they were in a relationship. She made me feel like it was my fault and told me I should have known about them. I even said something about I might have gotten the conversation all wrong about her liking me and she told me I got it all right. Are these the kind of things girls say and do with their guys friends and I just misread her?

December 02, 2019, 05:17:28 AM
Reply #1

Captain Black

A tough one to call . It sounds to me that she strung you along a little and perhaps she was being too flirty for her own good. It sounds to me she gave out a lot of false signals and IMO it wasn't your fault . What I would do is to put this down to experience and perhaps check out body language videos on You Tube . Its not clear from your post that she gave out more than one signal at a time. The things to look out for are multiple  signals and that is a good indication that someone is into you .

December 07, 2019, 05:30:19 PM
Reply #2


I guess see how she interacts with other "guy friends". Some girls are just REALLY flirty because they LOVE the attention. I knew w girl who strung a guy along who was head over heels in love with her, but she didn't return the idea. But he follwoed her beck and call like a puppy, whatever she wanted he bought, whereever she wanted to go he took her. He was determined to change her mind and get her to like him (she ended up with a boyfriend of her own later).

It's awful that anyone would do that, but those are the people who are self-serving and you don't want to be anyone's footstool, right?

My thought is, she strung you along and you missed a few red flags in your eagerness to progress things :(

December 08, 2019, 02:53:19 PM
Reply #3


No deffiently not, im going through a similar thing actually, just view it as a learning curve

December 09, 2019, 11:00:09 PM
Reply #4


This has happened to me before. I can actually help with this one.

This situation is sort of like getting your car stolen after you left it running out front with the doors open. Should someone have stolen the car? No, but you shouldn't have made your car such an easy target.

I once fell for this girl. Her thing was manipulating men into being her toys and emotional prostitutes. In other words, she loved to feign interest to trick guys into giving her emotional support while she screwed every other guy in town. It was a really shitty thing to do but she got off on it. She knew how to find guys who would leave the car running with the doors open.

Do you know how she behaves with other guys by chance?

December 10, 2019, 06:24:35 AM
Reply #5


I think she was just probably a bit flirty, and lead you on.

It happens, some girls love the attention of men and to feel valued from their attention. Its happening to me currently.


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