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June 03, 2019, 06:12:00 PM
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Guywithaprob25


So I have been in a relationship for five years June 10th and married for 1 year and 3 months. I love my wife but we fight constantly almost every day for the majority of five years. Well recently I realized a forgotten part of my soul that I gave to my sister's best friend 11 years ago. This girl and I had a moment just weeks before my now wife and I got together 5 years ago and I have never been able to shake the missed opportunity. Well recently in the past few months this girl and I have been talking just as friends nothing more and I can tell she has feelings for me but neither one of us let it come out because I'm married and I don't want to be that "bastard" who cheats and she I'm sure doesn't want to be a "homewrecker" my wife does know that we talk as friends only. I think my wife knows that I'm in love with this girl but she will never admit this out loud. Also my wife doesn't believe in divorce because we both come from divorced households. We also don't have kids together but I do have full custody of my daughter from a previous relationship 6 years ago. What do I do? Do I file divorce papers? Do I forget about this girl and force feelings to stay married? At this point it just feels so fake in this marriage. There's alot of unhappiness. Please someone help!!!

June 04, 2019, 10:03:53 AM
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ChasingTheCarrot


I was married and my wife and I lost all connection and passion.  I wasn't really looking but found a girl that I liked at a party and developed a crush.  She liked me too so I went for it and it turned into an affair.

The problem no one tells you when making these choices is that being in love with two people is awful.  I had a new exciting connection with this other woman but my wife was still important to me and I loved her.  When it came down to trying to choose between the two of them, it was pain no matter what I chose.  I ended up divorced and I'm married to the other woman now.  It was still the hardest most excruciating pain I've ever been in.  There is no good choice.  There's pain either way.  This will be hard to understand if you don't feel it yourself, but my advice would be pick your wife and do it now because it's only going to get harder and harder the longer you wait and let these other feelings persist.  If you start something more with this other woman you are making ties that are going to hurt like hell to break.  Or you'll break the ties with your wife that will also hurt like hell.  There's nothing but pain ahead and it's worse the longer you wait.

 

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