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July 20, 2018, 10:21:22 AM
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feelinghurt


Five months ago, my girlfriend turned down my marriage proposal over a Ukraine ski trip. I planned to make that trip a joyous and memorable one, yet it turned out to be very devastating. When she said she’s not ready, it felt like I got stabbed by hundreds of knives. We went to Ukraine together but I got back home alone. She was no longer at the hotel we were staying when I got there after the incident. She walked away and probably went home afterwards. Since that day, I never heard anything from her anymore; even until now. Because I was so broken, I went to nightclubs and get drunk almost every night. Then, I met a Thai woman and we hit it off. I started dating her though I was pretty certain I haven’t moved on from my ex girlfriend just yet. I felt bad about it because this Thai lady is very loving and caring. She made me feel special and I thank her for that. I began to feel something for her. I just don’t know if this is pity or whatever. Maybe I will get to learn to love her eventually, but am I a douchebag now for using her?



July 20, 2018, 02:51:53 PM
Reply #1

ion


That was very sad story, but I think you did the right thing by finding a girl immediately, but falling in love with that girl, while you're still love or not moved to your ex girlfriend is really bad idea, but you said you already love that girl, so, if you love the thai girl, you're not using her.  Stay attach to that feelings.

July 20, 2018, 04:04:41 PM
Reply #2

Rita101


Five months ago, my girlfriend turned down my marriage proposal over a Ukraine ski trip. I planned to make that trip a joyous and memorable one, yet it turned out to be very devastating. When she said she’s not ready, it felt like I got stabbed by hundreds of knives. We went to Ukraine together but I got back home alone. She was no longer at the hotel we were staying when I got there after the incident. She walked away and probably went home afterwards. Since that day, I never heard anything from her anymore; even until now. Because I was so broken, I went to nightclubs and get drunk almost every night. Then, I met a Thai woman and we hit it off. I started dating her though I was pretty certain I haven’t moved on from my ex girlfriend just yet. I felt bad about it because this Thai lady is very loving and caring. She made me feel special and I thank her for that. I began to feel something for her. I just don’t know if this is pity or whatever. Maybe I will get to learn to love her eventually, but am I a douchebag now for using her?

It's wrong what you did by using another innocent girl to get over your ex girlfriend who happened to have dumped you for another guy. Such happens in relationship and we have to live with that, but getting another person to suffer for the hurt that you sustained from another person is totally wrong. If such a thing is done to you or your sister, I'm pretty convinced that you wouldn't feel happy.

When you are hurt in a relationship or get broken up in your relationship, what you need to do is give yourself some time to heal and get better. Even if it takes weeks, months or years, it's far more better than getting another person to pay for the crimes of another girl. What you did is wrong and you should find a way to make things right.

July 20, 2018, 04:22:59 PM
Reply #3

Martinsx


Five months ago, my girlfriend turned down my marriage proposal over a Ukraine ski trip. I planned to make that trip a joyous and memorable one, yet it turned out to be very devastating. When she said she’s not ready, it felt like I got stabbed by hundreds of knives. We went to Ukraine together but I got back home alone. She was no longer at the hotel we were staying when I got there after the incident. She walked away and probably went home afterwards. Since that day, I never heard anything from her anymore; even until now. Because I was so broken, I went to nightclubs and get drunk almost every night. Then, I met a Thai woman and we hit it off. I started dating her though I was pretty certain I haven’t moved on from my ex girlfriend just yet. I felt bad about it because this Thai lady is very loving and caring. She made me feel special and I thank her for that. I began to feel something for her. I just don’t know if this is pity or whatever. Maybe I will get to learn to love her eventually, but am I a douchebag now for using her?

Let me make it very clear to you that infatuation is absolutely different from love. Even though the new girl Thai seems to have fallen in love with you, what you probably feel for her isn't true love but just lust.

This is absolutely wrong, if another person uses you are your sister in such a manner, it's definitely not going to go down well with you. Please, I would recommend that you open up and tell her the truth. Believe me that she is going to feel hurt very bad but it's better that way.

July 20, 2018, 05:04:35 PM
Reply #4

ferlina


This is the ultimate way to get over your ex. Even though your past relationship didn't work, it shouldn't stop you from loving again. Try not to close your heart to a new possibility of a love that is better, bolder, and greater than the previous one. Smile and be hopeful. There is someone who is right for you, someone who will be thankful to have you, someone who will treasure and respect you more than anyone else.You will find a new love that will make you grow more mature and inspired in your everyday life. And who knows, the next person could even be the one you decide to spend the rest of your life with.

July 21, 2018, 06:52:26 AM
Reply #5

RoseKaizer


For me as a girl, what you did is not right. You used your new girlfriend to forget your past, if I am your new girlfriend Im gonna be hurt so much because you used me, thinking that you love me but not.

July 21, 2018, 09:48:33 AM
Reply #6

Martinsx


For me as a girl, what you did is not right. You used your new girlfriend to forget your past, if I am your new girlfriend Im gonna be hurt so much because you used me, thinking that you love me but not.

Exactly! There is no justification with using another girl to get over your past hurt in a relationship and waking up tomorrow to say that you are not into the new girl any more because you still love your ex girlfriend. This is something very wrong to do and any guy who thinks about doing this should reconsider it because it's evil in my opinion.

It's just creating more fire for yourself with the new innocent girl that gave you her time, love, attention and affection but you end up hurting her feelings because she was just been used. Please stop if you still doing it and go and apologize to such a girl.

July 23, 2018, 08:40:20 AM
Reply #7

feelinghurt


That was very sad story, but I think you did the right thing by finding a girl immediately, but falling in love with that girl, while you're still love or not moved to your ex girlfriend is really bad idea, but you said you already love that girl, so, if you love the thai girl, you're not using her.  Stay attach to that feelings.

Thank you so much for helping me realize it. Appreciated!

July 24, 2018, 06:14:46 PM
Reply #8

QueenFarLou


You said you were starting to feel something for her but before jumping into things, start by apologizing to the poor lady. It's not impossible that thing could get serious between you and her but she deserves your honesty.

July 28, 2018, 03:15:35 AM
Reply #9

daryle12


you did a right choice, dont choose the women you love over the women that makes you feel happy and better.because when the time comes that your ex coming back to you.the choice will enter, so i suggest to choose the second girl.

August 02, 2018, 05:37:31 PM
Reply #10

orfia


for my advice accept the reality and never ever use anyone or anything to forget, stop that using even if u might fall for her its because one of the most painful part of relationship is when you thought he really loves you but eventually you will know that he's just used you. be like a soldier know when to starts and know when to surrender but never use your partner to escape because he  might survive but that will be your case and that is a crime.

 

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