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August 10, 2018, 01:23:36 AM
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perceivesadden


It all started when I met her at this amusement park in New Jersey. I couldn’t really afford that trip, but all my expenses were paid for because it was the prize from a win free tour contest the company I work for organizes each year. It was really hot that day and as I was lining up for some cotton candy and soda, she accidentally bumped into me and dropped her wallet. I handed the item back to her and met her eyes; which is the precise moment when I knew she was the one.

She smiled at me and we ended up spending the rest of the day together, stuffing our faces with junk food and getting on the more exciting rides. We’d been going out for 3 years when she decided it was time she moved in with me. Now several months down the line, I feel like she doesn’t even care anymore. She hardly speaks to me when she’s home and she’s always out and about with her girlfriends / office mates. I feel like she’s completely taken me for granted and I’m just some guy she comes home to. When I look into her eyes, I feel like she’s just not the woman I fell in love with on that sweltering day in NJ.

Should I open up to her? Do the same thing and give her the cold shoulder? I don’t want to lose her, but if her feelings have changed, then I don’t want to be the person that holds her back.

August 10, 2018, 09:59:22 AM
Reply #1

Rita101


It all started when I met her at this amusement park in New Jersey. I couldn’t really afford that trip, but all my expenses were paid for because it was the prize from a win free tour contest the company I work for organizes each year. It was really hot that day and as I was lining up for some cotton candy and soda, she accidentally bumped into me and dropped her wallet. I handed the item back to her and met her eyes; which is the precise moment when I knew she was the one.

She smiled at me and we ended up spending the rest of the day together, stuffing our faces with junk food and getting on the more exciting rides. We’d been going out for 3 years when she decided it was time she moved in with me. Now several months down the line, I feel like she doesn’t even care anymore. She hardly speaks to me when she’s home and she’s always out and about with her girlfriends / office mates. I feel like she’s completely taken me for granted and I’m just some guy she comes home to. When I look into her eyes, I feel like she’s just not the woman I fell in love with on that sweltering day in NJ.

Should I open up to her? Do the same thing and give her the cold shoulder? I don’t want to lose her, but if her feelings have changed, then I don’t want to be the person that holds her back.

I don't think she ever gave you the impression or any impression that she was in love with you. I believe that you you just misinterpreted everything about the whole thing. You guys met by coincidence and she was free enough to hang out with you and spent the whole day with each other and now you probably fell in love with her but she obviously didn't fall in love with you.

I would advise you to get yourself and your feelings under control because there is a zero chance of her feeling the same way you do, so in order not to feel heartbroken please take away the feelings that you have for her and see her as just a friend.

August 10, 2018, 10:21:37 AM
Reply #2

Martinsx


Let me ask you this question. Did you ever profess your love and feelings to her? If yes and she says to feel the same way but turn around to treat you in such manner, then it's wrong.

But if you never said anything to her because it's what I'm seeing from your narration, then how can you say that she is taking you for granted?

August 10, 2018, 09:17:14 PM
Reply #3

Cyrus_W


I sympathize with you my friend. From where I stand, I think there is something missing in your relationship. It could be the initial spark that set both of you on fire. I've been in such a situation before and I know how it feels. The good news, however, is that we figured out how to fix the fallout.

Instead of quitting or revenging, I sat down to remember the first days when love was really in the air. In the middle of my recall, I remembered that there was a song both of us loved so much. Every time she would visit me, we would dance to the song and it felt so good. That evening, I did everything differently. I cooked the food she loved, laid out some of our first pictures on the couch, and put on the song to play repeatedly. When she came home from work, she stopped at the door on hearing her favorite song playing.

I waited for her to walk to the couch and when she saw the pictures, I watched her face as tears started to well up in her eyes. She looked at me, and that's when I walked up to her and said, "This is the girl I fell in love with 5 years ago. I though I was almost losing her, but now I know I was wrong". She could not hold back her tears as she began apologizing for everything. It is now 2 years and 5 months since that day, and we are still together.

All is not lost my friend. Try to re-ignite the fire that brought you two together in the first place. Good Luck!

August 11, 2018, 04:24:21 AM
Reply #4

anyone01


This very often that couple partners settle into that something looks on the surface like someone is being taken for granted, but the truth is its just the natural settling in, where in you trust that the other person is there for you, and you’re there for them, and you are just matter of true about it. You forget to say thank you when she makes a delicious dinner, or don’t tell each other when they look beautiful, but it’s not necessarily a referendum on the relationship.You need to look at it in the part of the whole relationship. She may be showing her affection and appreciation in little, every day ways that you may not recognize as such.

Then do some soul searching, and be honest with yourself about whether your expectations for the relationship are realistic. It is not her responsbility to make you and your feelings her priority 100% of all the time. Also, could there be something in your doing lately to which she is reacting that way? Could you make some changes in your behavior that would a response more attentive behavior in her? If you really feel like something is off, it’s time for a talk. Ask her if do we have something to talk? Frame it in terms of your senses rather than being accusing her. That is a effective way to put her on the defensive, and shut down a conversation that could be very helpful.
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August 11, 2018, 10:04:16 AM
Reply #5

ion


I think much better to go back to the place where you met her, and open up about your feeling.  You should tell her everything about the situation.  You should date her and give your relationship time to enjoy the moment again.  Maybe you just both need time together to talk about your relationship.

 

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