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July 17, 2018, 09:50:31 AM
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shatteredtopices


 Three weeks before my girlfriend and I’s anniversary, I bought two plane tickets for a Ukraine ski trip. We both love outdoor activities and thus, skiing will be a perfect bonding time. It was supposed to be an anniversary surprise. Nonetheless, it was me who was surprised. I was heading to their house when I saw my best friend’s car parked at first street before my girlfriend’s house. I wonder what was he doing there. I was about to pull over and get out of my car to ask him. With the help of the moonlit night, I noticed he was not alone. Someone was sitting in the passenger’s seat. I rejected the idea of pulling over and drove past them. For the last time, I looked at their silhouette. When they kissed, I laughed thinking it would be his next target. Yet, to my surprise, it was my girlfriend he was kissing. I stopped the car just right in front of them. My girlfriend noticed my presence and got out of my best friend’s car immediately; so as my traitor best friend. Though shocked with the mind and heart numbing scene I just witnessed, I still managed to get out of my car. My girlfriend started to cry and was about to move closer to me. I stopped her and right then and there, I didn’t realized that my tears began flowing down my cheeks. Without a single word coming out from my mouth, I moved smoothly inside my car and drove away. I deactivated all my social media accounts and cut all the connection I have for the two of them. What they did was unforgivable. Am I doing the right thing or should I give them a chance to explain their sides?

July 18, 2018, 06:39:39 PM
Reply #1

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Three weeks before my girlfriend and I’s anniversary, I bought two plane tickets for a Ukraine ski trip. We both love outdoor activities and thus, skiing will be a perfect bonding time. It was supposed to be an anniversary surprise. Nonetheless, it was me who was surprised. I was heading to their house when I saw my best friend’s car parked at first street before my girlfriend’s house. I wonder what was he doing there. I was about to pull over and get out of my car to ask him. With the help of the moonlit night, I noticed he was not alone. Someone was sitting in the passenger’s seat. I rejected the idea of pulling over and drove past them. For the last time, I looked at their silhouette. When they kissed, I laughed thinking it would be his next target. Yet, to my surprise, it was my girlfriend he was kissing. I stopped the car just right in front of them. My girlfriend noticed my presence and got out of my best friend’s car immediately; so as my traitor best friend. Though shocked with the mind and heart numbing scene I just witnessed, I still managed to get out of my car. My girlfriend started to cry and was about to move closer to me. I stopped her and right then and there, I didn’t realized that my tears began flowing down my cheeks. Without a single word coming out from my mouth, I moved smoothly inside my car and drove away. I deactivated all my social media accounts and cut all the connection I have for the two of them. What they did was unforgivable. Am I doing the right thing or should I give them a chance to explain their sides?

Firstly, he isn't a friend, at all.

I wouldn't be able to accept his apology, personally, for me, that would be the end of the friendship - and I wouldn't bother with the woman either.

You deserve better!
Your friendly neighborhood moderator.=)

July 20, 2018, 03:01:00 PM
Reply #2

ion


You did the right things to do.  You didn't give any words, but I think instead of crying, you should laugh at them.  Closing all your doors with them I think is bad idea, you should always open the door but never talk to them seriously, make a sarcastic words and laugh at them if they asking for forgiveness.  Much better to forgive them, but don't ever try to talk to them anymore.

July 20, 2018, 03:59:26 PM
Reply #3

Rita101


This is a very heartbreaking sights to witness, getting a double betrayal from your friend and your girlfriend as well. Some people would commit suicide as a result of such experiences and died out of frustration. There is a saying that, it's those we are closer to that are most likely to disappoint and betray us.

Both your girlfriend and your friend are to be blamed for committing such evil to your relationship with them but I think that your girlfriend should be blamed more than your friend because she is a cheat who had no regard or respect for you. It's actually better than you had to find out about their little secret affair behind you, this way you can move on with your life.

July 20, 2018, 04:28:55 PM
Reply #4

Martinsx


Seriously, I don't mean to sound too harsh but both that your girlfriend and supposed friend deserves to be shot dead where they stand. How can someone an innocent man calls his lover and a friend turn and betray that individual in such a hurtful manner. I would call such act the pure definition of heartbreak, and it's not everyone that can recover from such experience.

I'm so sorry to hear about your betrayal from your evil and wicked girlfriend and your evil friend that can kill you behind your back but all I can tell you is that it's better that you had to found out in order to know the kind of people you have as a lover and a friend. They are the type of people that can sell you off or even kill you. Please quit them both and move on with your life.

Good luck my friend.

July 28, 2018, 03:11:05 PM
Reply #5

daryle12


give them a chance to explain, and know the truth about their relationship and ask why they do that.this will help you to move on and minimize your stress.

July 30, 2018, 04:35:07 PM
Reply #6

jennyfermanuel


For your own good and a better closure, give them a chance to explain. I know this doesn't sound easy for you, yes I understand that. But for your own good and own peace of mind, try it.
I can say that what you did is right, they aren't worthy of your trust and love and friendship. Forgive them but don't forget what they did, I mean don't ever trust them ever again.
There is someone out there that is worthy of your love and attention. And it is not your ex-girlfriend.

July 31, 2018, 08:22:10 AM
Reply #7

Jenniferdainty


I'm sorry to hear that. I know you're dealing with so much pain right now but just let it out. Cry as much as you want because it will help you to relieve the pain and for your best friend, he is not actually your friend. You cannot call someone who betrayed you as a friend. For your girlfriend, it's good that you have discovered her true personality as early as now and believe me that later on you will be thankful that it happened. As for me, you did a good decision from keeping distance from them. You have all the right to do that and if you force yourself to talk to them, you might say words that you might regret someday just because you're mad. If there's someone who should  make an effort in reaching out, it's them and not you. For now, make yourself busy and talk to people who are dear to your heart and concern about you. It's none other than, your family.

For your question that whether you will give them another chance, actually, it's really hard to answer. It is true that everybody deserves a second chance, but in this case, you have to prioritize yourself. If you accept your girlfriend again, you should be brave in enduring the pain of the reality that she cheated on you once.

Just a friendly advice, don't force someone to love you. Set them free if you must. Doing that is not losing someone, it's gaining for your part. Don't ever settle for less. :)             

August 01, 2018, 12:24:52 PM
Reply #8

orfia


you did the right things but I suggest ask them why did they did that because I'm assuring you the most painful part when you missed a certain person is you you can do things to make things clear but you never did because you're angry, we all have the privilege to get angry but you still needs to make things clear, just cry untill your pain was a bit gone, when your heart is a bit better but face the things that made you angry..

 

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