Author Topic: I need help

Bappo · January 24, 2019, 04:51:39 PM

So there is a girl that I like that's in my class and that I have been friends with for over a year. She recently broke up with her boyfriend and is now single and I always had feelings for her. I think she is kinda in to me, but I'm not sure. The problem is I'm not very smooth with girls and I don't know what to do now. What would you do ifyou were me?

SarahLancaster · January 24, 2019, 05:30:05 PM

Well, if you've been friends with her for so long, you should be able to initiate conversation. Start by talking about something you both have in common, and then ask her if she'd like to go out to lunch with you some time.

winstonjack · January 24, 2019, 10:05:51 PM

The dreaded friend zone. You'll have to be subtle but try flirting and see how she reacts. I find that teasing (in a fun way) is a good way to flirt. Most women are very intuitive so she'll pick up that you are in to her if you flirt a bit. If the flirting doesn't turn out well then be direct. Tell her how you feel. If she don't feel the same your friendship may suffer. But heck, life is about taking risks especially if the rewards are worth it.

Wish you luck.

myles · January 26, 2019, 11:05:46 PM

Take the opportunity while you have it, I know it's terrifying but if you wait too long it's only a matter of time before someone else gets the same idea. Since she just broke up with her boyfriend, it'd be very easy for your approach to seem disingenuous (right after a breakup would be the time when all these guys will be trying to flirt with her) so try to distinguish yourself from them. Talk to her at some point, tell her how you feel and ask her out. If you think she's into you, that means she's into YOU. In other words, don't focus on trying to be someone she'd like, just be yourself and you'll probably be a lot less nervous. Good luck!

Reem1163 · January 28, 2019, 06:26:07 PM

You'll never know until you try. Since you've been friends it means you have a rapport with each other and I would be honest about your feelings.

Unilad2015 · January 28, 2019, 07:49:26 PM

Honestly mate by the way you’ve described it I would just go for it because you’re already fine talking to her so just ask her out for lunch or something and see what happens .

el.mariachi93 · January 28, 2019, 10:51:41 PM

It's good you decided to hunt for some words of advice, so kudos for that
I think you should try showing your attraction to her, but not in a creepy way. Just randomly talk to her and show her how awesome a man you are. You will fall for you naturally!

annonyman1 · January 29, 2019, 12:45:54 AM

Bappo,

You'll need to be really upfront with her. Let her know that you are interested to be more than just friends with her. Honesty is the best policy. If you aren't smooth, don't try to play that card because you might come off as tacky or awkward. If you are shy, it's a good thing because it shows humility.

Good luck mate!

koks88 · January 30, 2019, 02:22:25 AM

I was the same. Just go for it. Don't wait to long because it is harder and harder then. greetings

OppaAnnyeong · February 02, 2019, 03:42:54 PM

Well we always start with conversation. So i guess start with that then if you think its time then tell her.

Alcoholc-69-x · February 04, 2019, 06:51:00 PM

Ask her out on a date with just the two of you. No friends no family involved. Don't let yourself get friendzoned! if you get the feeling you can kiss her always go for it!

giants56 · February 08, 2019, 03:41:06 PM

Go for it. Look her in the eyes and be honest with your feelings. She will appreciate that. Confidence and nothing ventured nothing gained! Good luck!

hewylewy58 · February 21, 2019, 08:52:56 PM

You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. Usually in these situations, I just ask myself "what's the worst that can happen?" I understand that the fear of rejection is real, but in reality, the worst that can happen is that she doesn't share your interest and then you'll be in the exact same position you're in now. Bottom line: go for it.

P.S. Try posting this question on the RGUE app to get some different insights.

blush_morningstar · February 24, 2019, 06:45:51 AM

ask her out for a coffee, and feel out the vibe. if she asks something like, "is it just us two?" gauge her reaction and if she ultimately accepts, shoots your shot. good luck with her!

thegirl72 · February 25, 2019, 12:25:41 PM

I agree that subtle flirting is a good place to start, simply to gauge her interest. Maybe suggest a casual get-together, like mentioning if she ever gets bored to give you a text and you can go for a walk or meet for a bite to eat. Keep it low key to start. You have friendship as a foundation, so if you have things in common to lay the groundwork more then that will work in your favour to use them to get closer.