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Author Topic: I don't understand my "girlfriend"

February 17, 2020, 05:36:29 PM
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Hello everybody!

By the end of the last year summer my girlfriend of 1.5 years broke up with me. I was devastatded. It took me about 7 months to get over her. When i finally did, I met someone new.She was so cute and handsome and I couldn't help my self but to like her and she also was interested in me. So we started dating and it was really refreshing. But then I realized she is notging like the type of the girls I used to like. She was.. let's say to aggressive for me. She wanted to sleep with me after only 10 days. I know that's normal theese days and i dont judge, but i'm only saying that is not something i was fond of doing.But, hell ... it was about time i try something new. Little did i know it turned out to be really good and refreshing. Everything was going perfect until we had to separate for 2 weeks because of work and because i got flu. Last week i noticed some lack of interest from her side and i was right. When we finally got together she told me she can't continue regular relationship. She said she doesn't want breakup bur she doesnt want normal relationship either. Everything was perfect and those 2 weeks were too much for her. And that because of those 2 weeks she stoped to feel like she used to. She wants us to still be together but with less chatting, phone calls and dates. She wants everything to be normal but without any obligations and after a while we will see if we can get back to normal relationship. Now, again that is not something i used to do and she knows that so she said we can break up but only if i promise I will keep her close. And that is something i cant do.. call me immature but when i break up i have to stay away from that person for a while. So i accepted that relationship she proposed .

Now ... i'm 90% sure that wont work, but i want to try because im so scared of letting her go. I want to ask what does her behaviour mean? Is there a chance of ever getting back to what we used ro be or this is 100% preparation for break up... and why the hell i have so low self - respect to do something i dont feel like doing.She also mentioned that i am a perfect boyfriend.. best thing she had ... so i dont understand why this happend out of nowhere.

We're not together much, about 2.5 months.

Any advices ? Could this be just a faze or test or is this the end of our relationship?

February 18, 2020, 11:41:41 AM
Reply #1


I would say run, RUN brother, she is keeping you as plan B, her behaviour seems kind of slutty, she realised you would hesitate to just break up with her when she told you about it, but think about it. Less phone calls, normal but without obligations, less dates and less chatting, literally she keeps you as side dick or plan B. Now I might be wrong as I am judging just from your post but seems like waste of time to be honest, you don't have to rush into relationship and you don't have to stick around for her. She is not good enough for YOU brother.

February 24, 2020, 02:45:03 PM
Reply #2


I'd say you should stop it dude since she's just keeping you around as a backup.

April 06, 2020, 11:31:22 PM
Reply #3


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April 07, 2020, 05:42:14 AM
Reply #5


Honestly, you don't have to bend your standards for a relationship you want with your girlfriend. It seems like she chooses the relationship she wants without even thinking about the other person because she knows you love her. For me, it's not a relationship at all. She told you how she wanted this relationship to work, but you don't like this system and that's your right.
If I could advise you one thing, don't be treated as on option, you should be a priority for the person that loves you. Don't "microdose" your love life, you deserve better than this. 
Live. Just live.


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