Hi there IlovemyLS,
first of all I am sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how hard this must be for you.
So im just gonna give my thoughts to the 5 points youve mentioned:
1) Like i said i was never in this situation before, but id still like to say, that i do not think, that your deceased partner wouldve
wanted you to spend the rest of your life alone. I think death in particular can make you have a greater appreciation for life, it can
show how important it is to live it to the fullest. I think it would be very helpful to work your way through these feelings before you
jump into any new relationship. You will never find a substitute, but you can find something new, that will fulfill you in ways you
never even couldve imagined.
2) Ok i sorta already said everything to that in Point 1)
3) Totally agree to what you said. If you only feel about that new girl as a substitute for your ex, then it would be very unfair and
hurtful for her to get in a relationship with her. If you actually love her for who she is and youve sorted out your feelings, then id
say you should choose her.
4) Agreed, noone likes that, so make sure you go into your next relationship with the right intention and good communication from
the start.
5) You'd be surprised mate haha. But no, seriously, getting back with your ex (where it didnt go right the first time) only because you
feel like she would be forced not to break up with you, is a baaaad move on a lot of levels.
Like i said thats just my opinions, i hope it helps
