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Author Topic: I'm in love with my best friend and don't want to ruin our friendship

April 22, 2019, 02:50:47 AM
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bobjuca2


So,long story short,I'm in love with my best friend. We spend lots of time hanging out by ourselves,although I sense some signs she likes me as well,I also sense some from her to other guys. Today she said a guy on church was hitting on her and it was ''so cute to see''. I really like her but I also love our friendship. Was that a sign? What should I say? What should I do?

She also said her service took 2,5 hours,so I replied both texts with a curved ''Well,your church is too exciting,mine only had like 15 people'',btw.

Thank you,it's kind of urgent.

April 22, 2019, 09:15:28 AM
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sandovalapatricia


you should tell your feelings to her/him. may be she/he will also love you but because of the same fear she/he dont tell you that.

thankyou

May 08, 2019, 11:31:05 PM
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Bluestr


I agree, I think it's best to tell them how you feel. You will never know if you don't put yourself out there. I have a similar situation currently but I got the courage to tell her and I feel so much better.

May 10, 2019, 02:18:37 PM
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OwenF


Sorry if I make any mistakes, I'm not a native English speaker. I think you should tell her, but try to be very straight forward. Tell her the way it is, don't try to talk her into it. She'll respect you for asking a direct question, and you give her the opportunity to give a direct resposne back. She can say yes or no without having to feel guilty. Try to be respectful. I've had the same problem, and I didn't act. I still regret it, because now I think she actually liked me at the time. Now, of course, there's always a chance she will say no. Be prepared. Say that you respect her for being honest with you, and that she should take it as a compliment. Also, it's really important that you remain as calm as possible so it won't get more awkward then nesicary. Ask her if she wants to stay friends, - only if you want that, of course - she'll probably say yes, because no one is likely to give up a good friendship for something like that. Think about it: if a good friends confessed she had feelings towards you, and you didn't like her, would you give up the friendship for that? Meaby you'll pull back for a while, but I don't think you would give up the friendship. But in the unlikely case that she's not cool with you guys hanging out anymore, you should respect that. Keep your distant for a while, and just remember that time wil heal a lot. In a few months she'll just forget it ever happend, and you can go back to your friendship. One tip: If this is the case, don't go back to being friends if you still have romantic feelings towards her. You'll just end up misserable. I hope this helped.

Good luck,
Owen

 

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