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Author Topic: Her friends are reaching out to me

August 02, 2018, 12:54:43 AM
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imaffected


We’ve been broken up for almost half a year now. We don’t talk often. In fact, I can count with one hand the times that we’ve spoken to each other. Lately her friends have been reaching out to me. Every time they message me I just get frustrated. They’re the biggest reminder of who I wanted to hear from. Just earlier one of her close friends messaged me out of nowhere asking for any freelance work. You see I manage/curate an international dating blog. Ironically, I don’t have the right words to address my situation right now. If only someone could give me some advice. Do I block all of her friends on my contacts list? Do I just deal with them as if we didn’t meet through her? In all fairness, her friends and I bonded too at some point.

August 02, 2018, 09:14:18 AM
Reply #1

Martinsx


Try and find out the motives behind your ex's friends reaching out to you. If it's to plot a way of getting you guys back together, then don't give room for them to succeed but if they are just reaching out to you for old times sake, then there is nothing to worry about.

August 02, 2018, 02:50:54 PM
Reply #2

Steve5


You can try asking them what they need from you. But in a nice way. It's best to think better of people. At least, until you're sure that they're up to no good. Let's give others the benefit of the doubt.  :D

August 02, 2018, 04:59:23 PM
Reply #3

sidica


I'm sorry to hear that you are dealing with a breakup. I don't think that her friends are contacting you on purpose, maybe is just a horrible coincidence.
However, when you don't feel well you need your space to recover yourself before helping others. I think you could be nice and honest and tell to her friends that you need some space, that you appreciate the friendship but right now you need to be alone sometime to put your ideas in order and to work in your personal projects. Tell them that you will contact them later but right now you need to focus in your stuff.
Think it this way, you are not been mean, but you need to keep going on your life and if something or someone is stopping you to do it then you are free to tell them that you need your space. Some people will understand that and some people will not but that's their choice, you don't need to please them and they should have more tact to know that you need some time alone.
« Last Edit: August 02, 2018, 05:03:07 PM by sidica »

 

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