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Author Topic: Girlfriend broke up with me today. Need opinions on the situation.

May 17, 2019, 06:58:32 PM
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Jarrice


I know it might be a long read, but I would very much appreciate some opinions on this situation.

So my girlfriend just broke up with me and I'm feeling really weird instead of sad, mainly because I find it hard to believe that she didn't care about me. She admitted she liked me about 3 months  ago and after a few dates, and lots of spending time together we made it official.

First I'll start with her reasons to break up with me and what she said:
She said she really likes me for who I am and likes to spend time with. However, for her it feels like that was it, while I had openly admitted to her that I loved her for who she is (even with some of her trouble, which I will talk about later). She thinks the friendship layer is absolutely there but that she doesn't quite love me. She wanted to end it now instead of trying for another month or so because she was worried that it would become more difficult to break up, and that she would just feel the same way about me.

Now I find it hard to believe that she didn't have feelings for me for several reasons:
- She was always eager to see me.
- She had huge trouble with being sexually pleasured but didn't have any problems satisfying me every once in a while, which she would do almost daily sometimes. Her troubles being sexually pleasured came mostly from a troubled past and every time we tried she ended up shaking uncontrollably and feeling uncomfortable at which point we would stop, and I would give her some time. Even with this problem she wanted to try, and I'm assuming because she cared about me.

There are a few other reasons why I think she did have feelings for me, but the main reason why I feel so weird about this is because she was the one that was broken today. I''ve never seen her so sad but she ensured me that she was crying because she didn't want to hurt me. I found this hard to believe after everything but especially because I think there may have been something else.

She once admitted to me that she has had crushes before but never really felt love. Now I have a feeling that there was something else blocking our relationship, maybe from her past. I just can't shake that idea, but I feel like I missed my chance to talk about it today. Should I ask her to talk one on one again?
« Last Edit: May 17, 2019, 08:20:57 PM by Jarrice »

May 18, 2019, 06:37:35 PM
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Rami Kamal


Hey Bro, Hope your doing well about this, to answer the last question you had NO dont talk to her, end of story learn your value, I understand she was troubled, I completely do, But the fact remains she wanted it, now as a man, accept it and move along, dont make your emotions get to you or feel sad no, respect her aswell meaning dont flag her or ignore her infact be there for her, and trust me you will win weather its your respect or heart again im not a future or mind reader but you will end up being happy from the inside, good luck man and i wish the best for you

May 19, 2019, 08:27:57 AM
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Jarrice


Hey thanks for the reply. I certainly don't feel great about it yet but I won't contact her for a while. We go to the same school, though. And we share some friends together there so it might be difficult in some scenarios.

 

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