Wife constantly looks, smiles, and I think flirts with other men. She says no, absolutely not. It happens a lot and makes me uncomfortable. Again she says no, it’s my imagination. Over my shoulder, beside me, it doesn’t matter. She even turns to follow someone with her eyes. On holiday a hotel owner said our young guide could sleep in our room with us, she said, “no problem”.
What does she do when I’m not with her?
Is it my problem?
 Is she a flirt and no more?
Or does her behaviour draw men on and lead to cheating?
Or is it just her way?
Her behavior had undermined my trust and this is acerbated by my replies to her declaration of feelings.
She is slim, fit and pretty and always wears tight clothing in which she looks great.
Opinions, please!

She doesn’t want to talk about this subject. Closed book, in fact she’s prone, for a quiet person, to go into a lather over the subject.

Jublirz, Thanks for your comment. But Then she has had messages on her phone from men saying, “can’t talk now.”
Going 75 miles to a town, getting a haircut, coming home and showering. Telling me the hairdresser shows pics on his mobile of naked women being body painted and tells her about whores in Thailand. She likes such real stories. Then telling me with a wink, after not going to him for two years, that he was really good (hairdresser?).

I would sit her down and explain to her that her behavior is worrying you. Just be completely honest about how it’s making you feel. She could just be the kind of women that likes the attention but doesn’t have any interest in pursuing anything with someone else. Hope it all works out!

Hi there and good morning! Your situation would definitely bother me quite a bit and I would be very ambivalent in the relationship, as well as probably fearful, worried and insecure. I have strong problems with lust yet in 6 years my wife has never had this problem with me. It’s extremely beneficial to very strictly define what monogamy means to each of you. It sounds to me like the two of you have different perceptions as to what a monogamous relationship should be like and what behaviors are acceptable. My girl and I have very clearly defined these things, we’re both extremely aware that even holding someone’s hand would be a major red flag. I know you’ve said you already talked to her, but I don’t hear that you’ve tried hard enough. At this point I wouldn’t give her a choice. I’d let her know the situation has me anxious, scared and very ambivalent about the relationship, and that this isn’t something that’s optional to be addressed. You should WANT your woman, not need her, and I personally would not could not be with somebody who was unwilling to get into such an important topic with me. My wife knows secrets about me that I haven’t told to a single other soul. I would stand my ground man. Also, just for the sake of both sides, make sure you take a good look at yourself and figure out if your doing anything at all to contribute to the situation. Have a great day, I hope I helped!