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Author Topic: Can I ask a girl out that's losing interest?

May 10, 2019, 02:25:42 PM
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OwenF


Hi guys!
I have a few issues with a girl I like and I was wondering if someone could help me out. So we're both sixteen years old, witch is perhaps a little young to get into anything serious, but we're both pretty mature for our age, so I don't think that should really be a problem. I have no experience with relationships at all, and I have no idea what I should do. I have had crushes before, but never  like this. This feels different, more serious. We first met almost four years ago, but I didn't had any feelings for her at the time. We didn't really know each other back then, it was just that we had class together. Then she disappeared out of my life for two years. Now she's back, but things went different this time. Nine months ago we met again, and things worked perfectly between us from the start. We laughed a lot, we had a lot of chemistry together. I didn't ask her because I wasn't sure what I wanted. We're both very young, and pretty busy, so I figured it might not be a good idea to get into a relationship. So I think we became good friends, but there was always a spark between us. Then a few weeks ago, we were at a period were we were very close, but I think I took it too far. I think I was being too available, but I didn't make a move. I was just checking out what she thought. Now she seems distant. We have had our ups and downs before, were we wouldn't talk much for a while, but it always recovered and came back stronger after a few weeks. It might just as well recover, but this time it doesn't feel right. I think she might have lost interest, and that makes me feel super miserable. I'm pretty depressed because of it. I don't think I realized how much I liked her when she was around all the time. I kind of want to know how she thinks about it, I'm done with this guessing and not knowing things for sure. If I ask her, I'll know if she likes me back, and I'll be able to move on if she doesn't. Im ready to ask her now because I want to get things clear, but I don't know if that's gonna make it better or worse. Should I do anything, or should I just wait until things get better between us? If this is just a down period, I really think I shouldn't ask her now, but if she's really losing interest because I'm not acting and she's moving on, this might be my last chance. Or perhaps I was just in the friendzone the entire time. There's also a girl that's just a really good friend to both of us, I've thought about asking her if she knows anything about this girl's feelings towards me, but I don't know if that's gonna help me or if it's just gonna make things more difficult. I really don't know what to do, I hope someone can help me with a fresh look on the situation. Thank you for reading my problems and I hope to see your ideas.


May 10, 2019, 08:28:08 PM
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Lakrisal


I think you should definitely tell her how you feel, and ask if she has any of the same feelings for you. It's really difficult to do (even when you're 28 like me) but any answer is better than the countless replies you make up in your mind. Whatever she replies, it's something for you to act on, whether it's to ask her out or try to get over her. Waiting will probably not make it better, so try to find a good way of phrasing what it is you want to say and know, and let her know. Good luck!

June 09, 2019, 10:51:23 AM
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simplemal


Don't let your life depend on this girl. In my opinion you should just tell her how you feel (not via text but in person possibly) that is better than having your life ruined by this. As they say there are a lot of fish in the sea, and you will feel better after this.
Girls like when a guy knows what he wants and goes for it.

June 10, 2019, 06:07:40 PM
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Afam


Do not ask that friend anything about this. People talk and as much as we would like to believe that all our friends are saints, they are not. Doing anything other then telling her how you feel would be a lie. A lie to her and worst of all a lie to yourself. It is painful to bottle up your emotions including the good ones. The bottom line is attraction isn't a choice, if you want to see where the romantic side of things will go with her you must tell her and be willing to walk away for your sanity if she doesn't feel the same way. There are quite a few other things I could comment on to help out in your dating situation but I prefer not to make this to long to read. Message me if you want more help with this.
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