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Author Topic: Can a relationship work with no spark?

August 12, 2018, 05:13:06 PM
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goodevening


Hi everyone, hope you're all doing well in your relationships.

I have a question for you all, I'd like your honest opinions in terms of what you would do if you were in this situation and the advice that you would give others.

The question being ... can a relationship work with no spark?

I mean, if you're in a relationship with someone that's purely based on friendship and there aren't any romantic or physical attractions, therefore, there isn't any spark in terms of intimacy, would you end the relationship to then move on and find another that is romantic?

OR would you stay together on the basis that you're good friends and that you get along really well?

Interested to hear your opinions.  :)

August 14, 2018, 12:48:18 PM
Reply #1

Beally


I have been in a relationship like that before. Unlike in this situation described, the physical attraction existed and more but I wasn't friends with the person I loved and no matter how hard we tried to make things work it made no difference and we had to end that relationship.

The first time we ended the relationship we thought we'd made a mistake and got back together, see if we could make things better. After a few weeks we ended that relationship permanently. 


Friendship is essential in any relationship. It's even more important than physical attraction because the more you see someone, their flaws which you previously didn't notice will be noticed.

My advice would be for you to not end a relationship based  purely on friendship because the moment you do, then the friendship also probably ends.

That's the risk involved when you decide to date a friend. Once you end the relationship either that friendship will end or it will never be the same. Just let the relationship evolve naturally and you'll find out soon enough if you (and your partner) are compatible.

« Last Edit: August 14, 2018, 12:50:49 PM by Beally »

August 14, 2018, 06:17:48 PM
Reply #2

Steve5


This is a tough call. It would really depend on the people involved. Some can live a life together without any romantic spark. As long as they're on good terms and living peacefully. But most people need that passion. The fuel that burns in each other's hearts. So it'd be more likely that romantic spark is a must for all of us.

August 14, 2018, 07:33:56 PM
Reply #3

ion


Honestly, for me, much better to choose that. compare to what you called spark.  A friends relationship is gonna be consistent.  A spark is just in the beginning, wait until its explode, and it will end up nothing.

August 17, 2018, 09:38:07 AM
Reply #4

Jenniferdainty


For my opinion, I think it won't work. Romantic relationship for me is a combination of spark and friendship. If either of the two is absent, it will be the start of chaotic relationship. Spark for me is whenever you see your partner, you will feel unexplainable excitement and happiness. There is no perfect relationship but because of this so called "spark", couple's love always reign. 

August 17, 2018, 09:52:47 AM
Reply #5

Martinsx


For my opinion, I think it won't work. Romantic relationship for me is a combination of spark and friendship. If either of the two is absent, it will be the start of chaotic relationship. Spark for me is whenever you see your partner, you will feel unexplainable excitement and happiness. There is no perfect relationship but because of this so called "spark", couple's love always reign.

Well, I have to concur with you on this one because you pointed out exactly what I have in mind. When you are in a romantic relationship and it lacks the sparks as the poster pointed out, I seriously doubt that such relationship will get to any where reasonable and it will fall apart.

Already there is friendship in the relationship but what will bond it very well and tight is the spark, whether it's just romance or sex, it's very important to be a part of the relationship to help it jell well.

August 17, 2018, 01:53:33 PM
Reply #6

Steve5


For my opinion, I think it won't work. Romantic relationship for me is a combination of spark and friendship. If either of the two is absent, it will be the start of chaotic relationship. Spark for me is whenever you see your partner, you will feel unexplainable excitement and happiness. There is no perfect relationship but because of this so called "spark", couple's love always reign.

That's true. But I've also seen some couples who lived relatively normal and peaceful lives. Lots of old people were in arranged marriages. They were actually okay with it and learned to love each other as time passed by. I guess it's different for everyone.

August 19, 2018, 10:34:42 AM
Reply #7

RoseKaizer


In my opinion a relationship without spark cant work at all. First of all when a person feels in love to someone else, there is a feeling, a spark.

August 19, 2018, 06:40:31 PM
Reply #8

Steve5


In my opinion a relationship without spark cant work at all. First of all when a person feels in love to someone else, there is a feeling, a spark.

I think this is the case for most people. They really need to have romantic chemistry if they are to work. I guess that's why most couples eventually go their separate ways. It's a sad reality.

August 20, 2018, 09:32:46 AM
Reply #9

alymae


In a relationship friendship is important. It last for a lifetime. Whereas spark fades. It doesn't last. When you get old you won't need spark, you'll need companionship. Why do people base it on chemistry or spark? I admit it adds to the attraction but it is not what matters. You should decide what is important for you, this so called "spark" or friendship. It's hard to choose.

On my part, I would prefer friendship. But I don't know about you. What is more important is that you don't cause much pain to your partner. If you fell in love with someone else, she deserves to know. There is always a possibility you'll fall in love with someone because you don't love her anymore. Just be honest with her and see where it goes.

August 31, 2018, 04:25:28 PM
Reply #10

QueenFarLou


A strong relationship is founded by a good friendship between two people. Romantic relationships however, start with physical attraction so without "spark" there won't be intimacy. I think you should continue being "good friends" with her. Don't rush and force things to be romantic.

August 31, 2018, 08:55:36 PM
Reply #11

goodevening


A strong relationship is founded by a good friendship between two people. Romantic relationships however, start with physical attraction so without "spark" there won't be intimacy. I think you should continue being "good friends" with her. Don't rush and force things to be romantic.

I completely agree, if a relationship isn't meant to be, it's not meant to be.

If a relationship has no spark, there really isn't any point trying to continue it.

Thanks for all of your lovely comments.

 

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